Hi, I am new today
I am 40, mum to a little boy, nearly 3, BUT

I am in a sad place right now - found out yesterday that I have had a MMC, nearly eleven weeks, but baby has died about 8 weeks. Currently waiting to start medical treatment tomorrow and am petrified. I am lucky that I have a beautiful little boy who is coming up 3, but still the pain is immense. I am worried, due to my age that the problem is my eggs and that i wont be able to have any more babies. if you look at the stats it would seem i am a freak of nature even getting pregnant in the first place! Any successful outcomes would be a big help. I even feel callous talking about another when this poor baby is still in my tummy.......

I'm sorry for you honey. Keep the faith, pet. I had my third at 41 despite 'statistics'

Welcome to BnB too. It's a marvellous place for help and spport.


XXX

hey hun. I turned 40 in Dec and had D&C for MMC at the end of Nov. This would have been my first as well. It's so much more common than you think and has nothing to do with age. There are plenty of fit young 20 year olds on here who have gone through exactly the same thing, some more than once as well. I've stopped thinking about my age for a good few years. There are plenty of 40+ pregnant ladies around on here as well.

Cant say anything to make you feel any better, but ignore the stats do what feels right. Didnt want to read and run.

Sam x

Sorry for your loss hun xx

Sorry for your loss hun!



Welcome to BNB!

So sorry for your loss hunni

I will be 40 in October and trying for number 5! I also know what you are feeling as I had a MMC in October last year.

On the statistic front however...a good friend who has 5 kids and had a MMC back in May last year is now preggers again at 41 and everything is looking great!! She also has thyroid probs and is on a really high dose of Thyroxine but conceived naturally!
There is hope for us all!!!

Take care of yourself over the next few days and allow yourself to grieve before going for your sticky BFP bean!!!

I'm not the same age but went through a missed miscarriage back in august of 08. Went on to get pregnant with my DD in November of 08 and now have an active, healthy, nearly six month old girl. I wish you all the best and welcome to the forum!!

Hello!

Thank you so much, everyone has been great and I got a lot of comfort yesterday chatting to people going through/been through the same. Couple of my friends had this happen in their twenties, so rationally I realise age is not the factor, but irrationally I guess I am looking for someone to blame and full of guilt, that I feel it was something I have done.
Today, I go for the first tablet and it sounds mad, although my little angel has already gone, I feel, I am getting rid of her...?? ( don't ask me why, but I feel she is a little girl). I guess mentally, like my body, I don't want to let go. This is sheer hell, I never imagined the pain of a loss and I know I have to grieve, but she has spurred me to go on and hearing other people in similar situations/ages going on to have successful outcomes is really helpful. I just feel so so sad and I never want to forget her, she was/is my baby and however short, she was alive, a human being but is now a little angel, who will always have a piece of my heart just for her. The next few days are going to be tough.
love to you all xx