sexymummy18

hi all well dont know where to start..
our daughter is now 11days old and the 1st 2 nights we were both kept in hospital.. well OH was a GREAT dad for the 1st week but now seems to of gone of the idea i swear
he's off work till monday but all he seems to want to do is spend the last couple of days off with his mates which themselves just ignore their babys!
iv done most of the nights and days and havent had 1 sec to myself dont know how to tell him though..?

kimfrye661

Easy, tell him to step it up...lol. Hes a father and hes responsible for taking care of your little one too, not just you. Maybe you could get a chance to get out of the house and do something for yourself while he watches her. You deserve it.

tasha41

I'd tell him.. listen, every night you go out with your friends is one night I get to go out with my friends and leave you with the baby on your own.. after a couple hours on his own his behaviour will probably have changed

HOWEVER.. it is really common unfortunately... a lot of men aren't good with newborns. They're afraid of them (because they're so small and fragile and it's a new experience to them)... and they aren't confident in their parenting abilities yet. Of course new mums aren't either, but men seem to feel like they don't HAVE to do it, they can let us tackle it..

halas

aww my fiance kindoff steped back he didnt go out but started leaving all on me i layed down the law and told him he needs to be part of this to i said that i couldnt do it all and that he needs to make a relationship with his daughter he told me his reason why was because he felt like he didnt know what to do and he would panic if she cryed so maybe he's having trouble coping men arnt good with the newborn stage i think they are more for the part where you get smiles and all that

sexymummy18

thanks all yeah going to see how today goes and then have a chat..x

xCorkettex

Have you had a chat with your partner yet?
let us know how you get on x

sexymummy18

nope havent yet abit scared to be honest lol i dont like 'talking' but im deffo going to tommorow didnt really want to today as was my mums bday so didnt want to create a atmosphere...
x

Panda_Ally

My OH went a bit 'off' after holly was born i think it was just too big for him to deal with and he wanted to go out the whole time!! NOW hes a fantastic dad and hes even going to stay at home while i go back to uni!!! Have a word and thrn give him time i think it takes some men a little while to get into the swing of being 'daddy'