Flower

Hi all,

I feel really bad about this, so just posting my feelings and for some advice really.

We have my step kids every other day and every other w/e (50% joint custody). My baby is now 11 days old, and my partner and I have been together for 5 years.

I know this is gonna sound selfish and clingy but I'm finding the constant 'can I hold him/feed him' when the kids are here, really claustrophobic (can't think of a better word!). Obv. I want them all to bond, but maybe I'm being too clingy with my baby (he is my first btw) and I miss him when OH takes him if I even if I go for a bath for instance - is this normal?

Today we are trying to get Jensen to settle/sleep in his moses basket as he constantly wants to be held or sleeps in our bed at night (I know thats not very good in the long run, but it suits us for now as I can just reach over and comfort him/feed him etc).

Anyway, just wondered if anyone has any advice how I can try to chill out and not get so wound up with the kids asking to cuddle hold Jensen all the time when they are here. And/or whether its normal for me to feel clingy!

Thanks!

Elli21

I know it must be difficult, and i know what its like to not want to give my baby to anyone else and just let him be with me. But honestly hun you said yourself, its not going to do you any favours for the long run. I did this with my first and it took us until tom was 3 months old to get her out of our bed!
Tom has been in our bed for the first 4 weeks coz i was breastfeeding him, but after those four weeks hes been in his cot and he sleeps better than leigha does even now.
Give yourself time to relax hun, and allow yourself to miss your son for half hour why you bathe, its good for you both xx