Mynxie

I understand why you feel so upset about it.

Elli21

Personally, think you should be greatful for what hes offered you. 150 is ALOT of money!

And btw, the "loans" hes given your brothers are LOANS, they have to be paid back..your asking for a gift...!

Im actually in shock! Id never ask for a contribution anyway, but i know everyone is different etc and then be ungreatful to what they offered!

Personally if my child asked me for a "contrabution" id think they were being a bit cheeky! Of course id offer as much as i could but...if they were stunned into silence coz it wasnt enough, they'd get nothing!!!!

Im sorry ive sounded like a bitch, but honestly!!!

krissi

I am planning to get married next year and would never ask my family to contribute, if they offer then great but it is my choice to marry. Gone are the days when father of the bride stumps up. I do understand that you feel a bit put out aqs your brother has been lent money but £150 isn't bad and would pay for a bridesmaid dress, why not think of it positively instead of he will only lend me £150.

Uvlollypop

sorry i agree with this, you should think yourself lucky that you have your family to help you out with something as trivial as a wedding.

hypnorm

When we got married both sets of parents / granparents OFFERED to pay for various things neither of us asked for money towards things and we had a lovely wedding, without feeling bad that we had asked for stuff.
Maybe because you have been so self sufficient in the past he doesnt want to tread on your toes and offend you by offering alot of money.
Just bite the bullet and be glad that he has GIFTED this money to you.

katy

I can see why you would be annoyed at him offering to give your brother money but as other's have said that's a loan he'll need to pay back. In terms of the £150 he has offered i'm sorry but i think you should be grateful, i know weddings are expensive but nowadays the majority of people expect to have to pay for their own wedding and save beforehand accordingly. If your mother had offered to pay for the venue and the cake, along with half of the flowers then a lot of the cost has already been covered. You've yet to hear what your OH's parents will contribute so you may well get more money there. The rest you should realistically expect to cover yourself, although i don't imagine there'll be too much left! I, like others, feel you should have waited to see if they offered rather than asking though. I know i personally would feel way too cheeky, and i know for a fact i wouldn't get a penny of my father!

babytots

i agree with alot of the others that you should be grateful. i would love to get married but at the moment can't afford it. i don't see my dad anymore so wouldnt expect any money from him my mum only works part time and has my 3yr old cousin to look after as well as my brothers who are 20 and 23. and my oh parents well they are too stuck up to offer to help out.

so if we were to get married we would have to pay for everything ourselfs. be thankful that you have parents to help you out as i wish mine could (not that i would ask them too i know if my mum could she would offer to help).

but i can see why you are narked off with your brother as it is your big day and not something your squandering money on like your brother has.x