Ok, so I've been thinking about going back to uni again, to do an internet technology based computer science degree. Its best in the long run for me to do this, but I just cant help being put off by these things

1) I dropped out after a week last time. I get so nervous around people my own age and incredibly paranoid about their opinions of me (i have anxiety which often leads to depression). I'm worried I wont stick at it again, which would put me right back to where I am now

2) Can't really have a baby in the middle of a degree, so I'd have to go back on the pill. Its gonna kill me stopping ttc I also hate having to remember to take the pill & go back every 3 months to get more. Plus I haven't got round to changing doctors and i took me like a year to get comfortable going to my old doctors and knowing how to order it / where to collect it. At my old doctor's i jsut went there to get it, but where I live now you have to go to a shop like boots or superdrub to get it, and its in a differnt shop on different days. That's gonna screw my confidence (what little there is) big time.

3) Getting to uni will be a problem. I dont drive and there's no way in hell I'm living on campus. Which means an 1hr10 bus to the town, then another 30min bus to the uni. I dont know my way around that town at all to catch the 2nd bus. Or, there's a train to the town (with 1 change) and a bus from the station up to the uni. Will be tricky, especially if I have early lectures.


4) I've always wanted to be a stay at home mum. If i get a degree I'll be responsible for our income. I know these days both parents have to work, but I atleast wanted to only work while they're at school. But i think for us to have anywhere near enough money in the future I'll have to do this


Ok, I know I probably sound like a right whiner. But I just cant mind my mind up and its killing me because i just keep getting so confused. (erm, not literally killing me ^^; lol ) I guess I'm just writing this to get my thoughts down somewhere. I have very little confidence in my own abilities. Deep down I know I can get a degree. If I work for it. And thats what i'm worried about. I just cant motivate myself. And i kinda hated lectures for the week i was at uni. I prefer being taught in smaller groups, where you can ask lots of questions without disturbing the teacher's rant like in a lecture.


Eh, to save you having to really read this or bother thinking up advice, i'll add a poll.

And now i'll stick my dummy back in, lol

Sweetie you have your whole live to have a baby, don't wanna sound patronising or anything, but i really wish i had got more qualifications under my belt before starting a family( hindsight is a wonderful thing)
If you get your degree you will have more chance of getting your own house and some money behind you before baby comes along

Then you will have a better chance of getting a job which suits you

Good luck whatever you decide x

Yeah, i know. Its just so hard to see it that way when i just want a baby so much. Still, i think i needed to drop out of uni the first time so i can see things from this side of a degree. My dad's right, computers are what i'm good at and i cant work with them without qualifications

It sounds to me that because you have poor self-confidence you want to find reasons not to go to uni. I was very insecure when I started uni and it was the making of me. It is always difficult to start something new but sometimes we have to take that plunge into the unknown. I am unrecognisable from the shy quiet girl I was at 18, this could be the making of you.

I chose kids first career second

Right now im concentrating on working my way up the ranks where i am now. I have also considered doing some night classes but its still something to look into.

Im still young and can make myself a career anytime, with fertility problems i may not have as long to have kids.

Thanks for the replies girls I'm definately more towards going to uni at the moment. Guess i'll just class this as some kind of gap year, lol. Still need to find a temp job til sept tho -_- Thats if i even get in. Pretty sure i will tho. Have til june to apply, and they accepted me last year.

Gaby,

I think that Uni would be vey good for you.

If you need help with anxiety this can be done before you go and further support whilst you are there.

I would urge you to think about what you want to be when you finish your degree because there is so much conputer based stuff out there, you can end up without a real qualification. Also most IT stuff is being shipped (sub-contracted) out to China, and India as they get more people for less money, and this seem to be a global thing.

I went to Uni and can say it was the best thing I ever did and made my life what it is now. I do wish I experienced more "Uni/Student life" than I did, but I enjoyed my time and owe my career to it.

Best wishes for the future and good luck with whatever you decide.

Paul

Thanks. Yeah, i know there's so many people doing IT, but this is computer science, not IT, and there is a huge difference. Plus I know there's jobs in my area for website designers. If not, I shall start my own business, lol.

Ok, so I've decided to go back to uni Just, now AF's stupidly late -_- how silly would it be it I'm pregnant now, lol, when I've decided to stop ttc

Erm just a thought but why not do all three? I do.

I Work part time (but on maternety leave now) stay at home looking after Noah during the day, and Im 2 years into my course for an OU degree. I also never wanted to do the whole student thing, like living on campus and student debt etc, this way I get the mental chalenge and something to do whilst looking after bubs and once they start school I will be qualified. They do a number of computer courses as an old oco-worker of mine was doing a degree in computer programing. You have no dept at the end, you get one to one tuition and the option of attanding a small weekly evening class (optional) and in your circumstances you would prob be elligable for having your courses fees partially funded. Also OUdegress are ranked in the top 5 degrees in the country.

Here are a list of computing courses they do, from certificates, diplomers, degrees and masters. Also you can fit study around you, so if you need to take the odd year out cause you have other things going on you can return to it at a later date.
http://www3.open.ac.uk/courses/class...computing.shtm