Becky

Just had an arguement with Luke and im not really sure why!! It started over money as per usual and he got the right huff because i said he couldnt have something for his car because we needed more important things!! It ended with us just hanging up on each other!

He has now just text me and said he is fed up of my attitude and me always getting my own way! I dont realise what ive done wrong though!!

My self esteem is so low at the moment i dont know what to do and find myself just bursting into tears!! He even had the cheak to turn round and say that i was the one that wanted the baby so why should he loose out on what he wants because of the decision i made!!

I love him to bits and dont want to be without him but im fed up with his ****ishness!!



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orange-sox

What a twat, sorry becky but he's being so horrible to you



It takes two to make a baby, and he should stop spitting his dummy out because he is having to grow up and consider how he is spending his money for once.

Take care hon

Ema

Men can be soooo selfish sometimes.....I know with my OH he went out and bout a brand new 50" tv for the living room when the one we have works fine. lol Dnt stress out about it to much hopefully he will see the light soon XXXX

Becky

I no but he is to stupid to see it like that!! some times i just think i would be better off without him and others i know i cant live without him!!

it doesnt help my hormones are so up and down!!

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Spartacus

bloody men!! they are so insensitive sometimes!! seems he is the one with the bad attitude especially as it seems he is doing what he is accusing you off of not getting your own way!! grrrrr tell him to grow up and then try and forget about the argument he will think about it and hopefully realise the error of his ways...

Cheer up sweets

Blob

Awww thats rubbish fun I seem to have it the other way around i get a look if i spend any money at all. I bought a roll when we were out and he looks at me as though im being mental I think they are just all obsessed with money, apparently that was his first thought when i said i was preggers

Redhorse xxx

What men fail to realize is that us women have so many mixed emotions to deal with.

Pregnancy is hard enough without your man piling on the guilt every time HE wants his own way, your whole body is taken over by pregnancy and you can't remember what it was like to be thin and carefree LOL!
They on the other hand can still go out, eat what they like, wear what they like, drink, smoke etc. If there is any good reason to take care of you, what more excuse do they need? Yet time after time men just think that their involvement ends with the semen donation.... *NEWSFLASH* Babies cost money, build a bridge and GET OVER IT!!

It doesn't help when they seem to regress to being small children themselves. Constantly demanding attention, sulking when they don't get what they want but demanding that you don't spend money on stuff.

Luckily, my man is pretty good with me, he knows that I am fairly responsible with my money. We have three horses that I pay for solely, and my car insurance, horse insurance, shopping etc. He pays the mortgage and rates, on a par we spend roughly the same as each other. And it works well for us.

My first pregnancy was soooo different, my ex was a controlling bully, who loved his cats and sports cars more than me. We constantly lived in a crap tip because he filled the house with spare car parts. I came home from shopping (I couldn't drive then) and Zach hadn't been changed out of the dirty nappy he was in since I had left and he'd not fed him once but he had the time to take apart the entire lotus engine in bits on the LIVINGROOM FLOOR!

When I gave birth, I came out of hospital and the same afternoon I had to clean the house from top to bottom. It was filthy. The midwife came round and absolutely tore a huge strip off him. He still didn't do anything to help and as a result that is why I left him in when Zach was 15 months old.

He made me claim benefits from the BA from my mums address because he didn't want to pay his way and he was in his thirties at the time!! Luckily, my OH has his moments but they are rare and I know how lucky I am to have him- he works hard, spoils me rotten, and treats my son like his own.

But I do remember all to clearly just how awful it can be if you are with a man that is controlling with money and manipulates your emotions. *HUGS* to all of you with crappy men!

Redhorse xxx

enigma

Ok, so he says it was your choise to have a baby, if he dident want it yet then he should have stopped it then, not get you preggers, then start to complain.
Do you have your own income, or are you sharing hes?
Either way it shouldent matter, this is both of your baby, you should both be considering the financial side of things, not just you.