alyxzandra

Your Aunt Marg and my mother should get together. My mom would do something like that. As I wrote earlier, she plead guilty to embezzlement from her former employer.

I wrote to the trustee and told him that I have a clear conscience and did nothing wrong. Aside from being in my 37th week of pregnancy, I can sleep knowing I was in the right and lived morally. And I never did trust my mother because she has always been greedy and selfish.

I am so sorry to hear that your aunt has acted in such a despicable manner. And I do hope your grandfather gets the best of care and she does not run off with the proceeds from the house. How awful to take advantage of such a vulnerable person. May she get bad karma.

alyxzandra

I cannot understand your father!!! I hope you won your case!

However, I decided I will not contest this. Let my mom reap what she has sown.

charveyron

I'm sorry to be blunt, but it's only money, at the end of the day your little son will have all the love in the world from his mummy and you don't need the upset that contesting the will might cause, I'd draw a line under it and concentrate on the things that matter like your LO. You both deserve lots of happiness I hope it all turns out ok for you

alyxzandra

AGH...I messed up and posted twice!!!

alyxzandra

Thank you for all your replies. I am saddened to hear that others have been screwed over by the closest family members all due to money.

I sometimes wonder why I am so different from my mother and grandmother. I think it is a form of rebellion. I just have this strong sense of justice and I felt outraged that I was treated as the bad person when all I've done is work for everything and acted in a decent manner.

I decided I will not contest it although I am certain I have a good chance of winning. I know my grandmother did this out of spite because I know the type of person she was and I am certain my mom had a hand in this. I know her husband is going to screw her over big time. He always bragged he will be wealthy one day. And I am certain she will call me at that point. She will know she is truly alone and she sold her own daughter out for money and a man who does not love her. Karma can be nasty.

I have redone my will now and ensured that my fiance and son get everything and have disinherited my mother. There is a clause where she is not to be contacted in the event of my passing and I have left all medical decisions to my fiance in case I become incapacitated.

I will accept the money that was left for me and personally do not want it even if I was living on the streets. But, it will be put into a trust fund for my son and I will see what I can do to build on it for him. I've decided to take this negative legacy and turn it into something positive. I will also make a written request to the trustee that my mom is never to contact me again and I do not wish to be informed of her death. I will also ask if I can deal with the paperwork, etc. after the birth of my son. I feel I want to have everything clear for the birth of my son, which I will not allow to be marred in any way, shape or form by vindictive, nasty people like my mom and grandma.

Again, thanks to everyone for your ideas and support as it means a lot to me.

alyxzandra

Thanks. It was not about the money, but the principal of the matter. I was the one who made a lot of effort to maintain a decent relationship and do not like the way I was made into the bad person.

But, I am not contesting it. It is tainted money, as far as I am concerned. And I will accept what has been left to me and put it into trust for my son. All will turn out well because I have the start of a loving family. And I broke the cycle of abuse. That, for me, is priceless.

Thanks and

Omi

Hi Alyx,

sorry im coming into this a bit late but just wanted to say i totally empathise. There have been strange dealings on both sides of my family, and being an only child like you all i ever wanted was at least heirlooms.

When my gran died i got a plate i gave her and her old nightshirt (totally generic, nasty one) by my aunt..and i know when my dad dies i will see nothing of the things that will mean something to me but nothing to his family. There have been money set aside for me for years ( there has been several things coming to me from a other familymembers on my dad's side) none of which i have seen since ( as my aunt is a moneygrabbing conniving b**ch as is my dad) )and every now and then my mum and step-dad say i should fight for whats mine.

However, i have known since i was a child i wouldnt ever see anything, and i honestly cannot be bothered as it would cause me more grief that its worth. And yes, they're a nasty lot as well, without me getting into details.

The way i look at it is, im better off without them and their stinking money as obviously its the most important thing to them and they're willing to do totally immoral things to get their mitts on it.

I'm with you, and i think the way you're dealing with it is totally right. You obviously have your eyes firmly fixed on the future and the way you're handling it its gonna be a bright one!!!

All the best, hun! , Omi xxx

Blob

Just wanted to say that thats awful what you and everyone else here has gone through, although i dont understand as my family seems to all get along (as far as i know) But just wanted to to you all.

alyxzandra

Thanks. It is sad because there seems to be so many people out there experiencing the same thing. It is shocking that your own father would do such a thing to you and to have your aunt go along with it is madness. What are these people thinking? It makes you wonder if they remember that you cannot take money or possessions with you when you die.

But, I still believe in karma....my grandmother died a lingering death with the only person by her side was the carer, who was paid for her services. And now I know my mom is going to get slammed by the worm she is married to. But, I have someone who loves me and will be giving birth soon to my son.

heather91

Exactly the same happened with my mom and her sister. My mom didn't try and get any money because she could rest assured that money would never bring her sister any happiness. I'd just leave them to it and let them have all the money, because at the end of the day you're going to be happier with your LO regardless than they will with all the money in the world, so there's no need to cause yourself stress just over money. Very sorry to hear about your situation though. You really do see peoples' true colours where money is concerned!