nikky0907

First of all,I am so very sorry for your grandmother...

I really don't know what to say.I have read your thread earlier where you gave detalis of what your relationship.

Your mom is a really cold-hearted woman.I don't know your grandmother's behavior but I wouldn't exclude the possibility that she was influence by your mother.

Now,I can some what try and undestand your situation.My mother,who is currently binded by a pre-nup has no other choice but to wait for my dad(who often suffers from heart attacks) dies (sad but true)...I am not worried about the money that I should inherit from him but I am truly worried that I will not inherit (that she won't let me) some of the family (some of my) memories and heirlooms.

Now,you have started your family.You are about to have a beautiful son.Your mother has nothing for you but bad memories.

Heirlooms,money-thats something you are entitled too definitely,but do you want to do it now? These moments of your life are so special and wonderful,and moments after that will be too,creating your own memories
You can fight,of course you can for your rights there,the question is do you think it's worth it.
Think long about this,no pressure.

God only knows why these two women behaved like that and didn't see what a strong woman they have there.
You posted earlier a beautiful post about my parents...you are really a wonderful person.

Elli21

Im very sorry about your loss...

Id take the money and start building a trust fund for your little one...just think of what he could do with it. How many oppurtunitys it could give him.

I hope whatever you do, your happy xx

sam's mum

You're right, you shouldn't have to fight for it, or to have to deal with any of this - especially while you are pregnant. If you don't need the money for your son, it sounds as if you are better away from your mum's side of the family so that you can focus on your own family without all the stress It is your mother who will be the one missing out if she doesn't have you in her life x

Lil_Baby_Boo

Money really brings out the evil in everybody.

My grandparents selected two of my aunts as their will trustee's and gave them access to their bank accounts (should anything ever happened to their memory/mental health) They both always had their state pension paid in to their account but never touched it. They also kept money in safe's in their house and both my aunts had the combi's.

My nan passed away 2 years ago and since her passing my grandad (now 90) has been "slowing down" he started getting very forgetfull & wobbly on his legs & just a danger to himself really, we did chat about him going in to a nursing home but one of my aunt's marg (trustee) was set against it, saying he wouldn't like it and it wouldn't be what he wanted.
One day in Jan (of this year) he was found collapsed in his back garden in his dressing gown trying to hang his bed sheets out, he'd been out for well over an hour!!

It was decided for his own safety that it would be best for him to go in to a home. My aunt Marg again was very argumentative about it, trying to say he didn't have enough money to pay and that he wouldn't want to sell his house to pay for the care. Until the point my Grandad went in to the home my aunts never would have needed to access his accounts. BUT.....when they both went to the bank to sort out the money........there wasn't much money left??? Turns out my aunt marg had been taking money from his accout technically with out permission from my grandad & from my aunt Mel (the other trustee). When my aunt marg was asked where the money went she simply said 'he needed slippers and I bought bannana's to take to him' some bloody expensive slippers & bannanas as there was a couple of thous missing.

Anyway turns out my aunt marg was emptying my Nan's safe the night my nan died. she'd also helped herself to the money in my grandads when he was in hospital........its not been seen since & nobody can proove it was ever there - just our word against hers!!

It basically come to light that she didn't want grandad to go in the home as that would mean less money for her in the end! We're going to put Gdads house on the market soon and I hope to god all the money goes on grandad's care home.
I'm not bothered about any amount of money that I'd get, at the end of the day its money I'd never have had so I wouldn't miss it!! I'd give everything to see my nan, even if it was just enough time to give her a kiss and tell her I miss her and tell her she has a great grandson! No amount of money will buy me that!!

I would walk away with your head held high knowing you are honest & not a crook & golddigger!! Anything you may get is a bonus for your son! At least you've learnt the truth about some people and you know not to trust them!

xx

maybebaby

I am so sorry to hear you have to go through this. No advice... just lots of

leeanne

Hi hon! I am sorry to hear that you are going through all of this.

May I just offer my advice. I'd take what you are entitled to and leave the rest (no contesting). If I were in your situation, I wouldn't want the money.

You feel as though your mother and grandmother did not like you, and, quite honest, I wouldn't take money from people like that or contest anything based on those feelings.

I feel it's kind of like bad karma too. Does that make any sense?

trickysgurl

I would contest.. I had to do the same when my fathers mom passed in my case she had a stroke and lost most of her memory.. After the stroke my dad had her moved to a place where i couldnt find her and convinced her that i had abandoned the family. I am sorry u are havin to go through this! Your child has a right to all that as do u!

Doodles

What a sad situation to be in. Money really is the root of all evil.

If I were you hun I would walk away with the money that has been left to you, knowing that all the money in the world will not make your mother and her partner better people. However you seem like such a lovely person and your son will inherit from you something money cannot buy and that is love and affection.

alyxzandra

The only heirlooms I wanted were from my great-grandmother, who I knew. But, I have pictures, etc. You put things into perspective - the birth of my child will only happen once and I do not wish to put a bad mark on it by preparing for a legal battle etc. It is not worth it. I just want my mom out of my life. I think in one way my grandmother did me a favour by taking me out of the trust fund. This way, I can just go on and not have to maintain any sort of contact, even through a third party.

And thanks. I hope your mother treats you with some respect and realises it is evil to treat her own child in such a manner.

alyxzandra

Thanks. I think my son will be richer than my mother can ever be. And I will have the joy of knowing him whereas she will not.