Moulder86

I've had enough, my dad has decided he is going to dictate to me that I will not be giving my baby his dad's surname.

If I give MY baby his daddys surname then I will be thrown out. Where the hell does he get off thinking that he can tell me how to name my child. I don't mean he just said it we had an arguement about it because I will not sit here and let him tell me what the hell to do. I've been told by my sister he's not himself at the moment (he's been signed off for 6 weeks with depression) he doesn't mean it. Thing is I know he does and I've had it. ARGH

I'm just so flipping angry right now.

Sorry just had to rant

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sam's mum

It's not up to him which surname you choose to give your baby. I hope he realises that soon and apologises for threatening to throw you out x

orange-sox

Couldn't read and run

It's your choice what you name your baby, and your dad can sod off.

Fair enough, your sister is sticking up for him, what with him being signed off for depression and what not, but you know what, who's sticking up for you??

The sooner he realizes that he can't dictate anything to you, the better. You are not his child anymore, you are his adult daughter who is about to have her own child.

Moulder86

Thanks girls, I can understand he's pissed off with my ex for the way he's been and leaving me, not wanting to be at hospital or possibly not having anything to do with us afterwards but at the end of the day he is still my babies dad what ever he's done what ever our relationship.

And it's my choice what I do not my dads, problem is dad saying he'll throw me out isn't a threat I've already been kicked out twice. Argh men can be so pig headed especially my father!!

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sam's mum

Well he certainly shouldn't be using that as a reason to kick you out - you've done nothing wrong! Even if your baby's dad doesn't want to be involved, he's still the father and you should be able to use his surname if that's what you want to do

Hopefully he'll soon see that he's being unreasonable x

WaitingForYou

Your child can be called what you want it to be. First and second name. It shouldnt be a reason to kick you out, just for using the father's name.

Im stuck with what second name to go with, so I might go double barrel. Is that a possible for you, or does it not sound right? I dont wanna give my baby just one of our surnames, I dont like choosing.

Moulder86

I think Flynn-Moulder or Moulder-Flynn doesn't really sound right but I did think about it untill Rich said he probably wasn't going to have anything to do with bubs. Instead I was going to use Flynn as one of bub's middle names so it's still there and more for Rich's side of the family than Rich himself......does that make sense??

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trickysgurl

You should be mad.. Cuz ur right.. U can do whatever u want!

WaitingForYou

Yeah that makes sense hun. Flynn would be nice as a middle name I know both a boy & a woman with the name Flynn.