turbo_mom

So i just found out 3 days ago from my mom that a friend of ours that we worked with for almost 5 years is pregnant and planning to abort.

She already has 2 kids and has a steady relationship with a guy that proposed to her last month..

About 3 years ago she had gotten pregnant and aborted it as well.

She was invited to my baby shower this saturday but when i heard I decided that I didn't want to have her there.
I am very pro-life and have no respect for people who choose to kill there babies. I know it's a hot topic and I don't mean to offend anyone here or judge them. But my morals go above her feelings.

I just know that I have nothing nice to say to her at this time and I would find it hard to have her around a bunch of babies just before/after aborting her own. I wish that I could show her all of the horrible pictures of the poor little babies

I just think about all the poor women who try so hard to have babies. She could give it up for adoption if she's worried she can't support it. I dunno I just don't feel very good about the whole thing...

goldlion

You certainly are not a bad person for this at all!!!

That is how you feel about her decision and if you don't feel comfortable having her around then you just shouldn't. It's YOUR baby shower and you should feel comfortable there.

MummytoOscar

I don't think you are a bad person at all! Everyone is entitled to their own opinions after all, right?

I feel that sometimes abortion just seems to be a way of contraception for some people and surely people should respect themselves more than that? Obviously different people have different reasons for abortion and at the end of the day it is their body. I am not saying abortion is wrong because in certain circumstances it may be a better option. My mother fell pregnant with twins after having me and lost one, later after having a scan the doctors had said that there was something very wrong with the surviving twin and advised she had an abortion and she did. I know that this was a very hard decision for both my parents to make and I respect their choice to terminate.

I myself fell pregnant last year and it wasn't planned (I was on the pill). Before then I had never even thought of having children, had no interest at all and several family members and work collegues advised me to terminate the pregnancy. I didn't even consider and now I am so proud of my little man, my partner for supporting me and myself for the decision I made and I don't regret it at all. We felt that it was just meant to be, many people in the world struggle for years to get pregnant and some never do, there was nothing wrong with my baby and we were strong enough as a couple and realised we would struggle financially but we would cope. I love being a mummy .

Have to say I don't understand why your friend would have an abortion if she is in a steady relationship and planning to get married. It is your baby shower and you should invite (or not invite) whoever you feel and not worry about it

Hope I haven't offended anyone x

Moulder86

No you're not a bad person, I don't agree with it either and that's why I'm in my current position and going to be a single mum in a few weeks. My ex wanted me to get rid of it and I said no.

but on the other hand for some people they see abortion as their only option, sadly last year one of my closest friends had an abortion I wasn't happy about it but I supported her because it was what she felt she had to do at the time.

Have who you want at your baby shower you are not a bad person!

xx

lorrilou

no, your not a bad person at all. That is what you believe in. Personally i dont think i could have an abortion but do understand why people have them, everyones circumstances differ etc.. My little sister (19) had one a couple of weeks before i had callum and totally understand why she did, she is very immature for her age and her personal circumstances werent too good. Just wish she had thought about this before she fell pregnant!!!

Newt

no, your not bad at all. I tend to agree with you

mickey

I would feel the same!

I also could not have her around my baby at my babyshower and other babies, knowing she plans to abort hers!!!

I really can't understand people, who can abort!!!

and I am very against the law in UK, which allows abortion up to 24 weeks!!! it makes me feel sick, if I think about that they still KILL babies at this stage of pregnancy!!!

Elli21

I dont know whether i should really reply to this, but i really want to get across something.

Im very pro-choice. I think people need to make a decision based on their personal circumstances. Whilst i agree that everyone is more than entitled to their own opinions, and i do respect others opinions whole heartedly, i dont like some of the ways people have spoken here.

Kill is a very strong word and its thrown around as if it doesnt affect people.

Look, what im trying to say is that maybe a thread like this should have a warning on it as i was coming in here expecting to give moral support and instead im faced with a topic that IS very hot. And who alot of people are passionate about in either way.

Imagine someone coming in here expecting to give support like i did, and they have just had to make the hardest decision of their life. To see what has been written would be shattering and soul-breaking.

I hope you enjoy your baby shower hun, and i think you should be 100% comfortable there as the other girls have said.

Linzi

You aren't a bad person at all. Everyone has their own opinions and are entitled to them. And especially what you've been through with your little girl I can imagine exactly why you have those opinions! Don't feel bad. Stick to your guns if thats what you believe in

xxx

brewanneanan

your not a bad peson at all its your opinion, i belive in abortion, but only if the person is in a situation where they really cant have the baby, only if its really neccesary, i dont like the thought of adoption, havig your child out there with other people, i think it would be a constant reminder everytime you see a kid that age is that your....youd never know, and having kids also theyd be a little bit confused as to why there mum is pregnant and has a baby that just goes away...