rae05

I've started keeping a log of all mine and Adam's contact since Friday because he just keeps getting crazier and crazier. I'm having a major issue getting money from him for bills that we are owing (I already have my part paid but he's 250 dollars in debt to me cause he hasn't paid a bill since March), so I cut his internet and phone service today because it was still in my name. Is there anything else that I should be doing to prove his incompetency later on if it comes down to it?? I'm speaking with a lawyer soon.


I told him if I don't get the money by Friday, I'm calling his mother and asking her for it, as well as telling her I'm pregnant. I'm fairly sure now that he hasn't even told her I'm with child. He said if he gives me the money then he's not going to be able to buy the suit he wants to wear to work He asked me to "help him out". Well, that went down real smooth, I can guarantee you.

But yeah, any tips of things I should be doing to prove that he has no intention of putting anything, even late bill payments, before himself.

leeanne

Well, do keep a record of the times he phones to inquire about your LO and if he even inquires about baby's health at birth and then after if he even offers to come and visit the baby.

I will let you know, when I was separated with Dan for 5 months, just beforehand I made a huge journal of things and submitted them as an attachment to my affidavit. I don't really think the judge looked at it one iota.

I will let you know another thing. If it does come to a court case, do not take things personal and make sure to look at the judge when your OH and his lawyer ask you questions when you are up on the stand. Do not show emotions. You do know that each side will lie through their teeth to get what they want. It's just what happens in court.

Good luck and let's hope that it won't come to this.

leeanne

Keep emails from him too. Please do not get emotional in your response to him.

rae05

I am really hoping it doesn't come down to this. I told him that he is going to have to contact me if he wants updates on the baby because the last time I tried he almost went off his head because he had other things to deal with that day. So I put the ball in his court. I'm trying not to get emotional but when he says things (like what he said above), it is very, VERY difficult to keep a rational mind.

leeanne

I know it's hard to get emotional....very, very hard. But please do act like the strong one. If he contacts you, discuss baby only and nothing else.

Right now, it hardly seems as though there will be a reconciliation. Who knows about the future. But leave the topic to be about baby and if he goes off on anything else, hang up. Besides, if he does go off on something else it's likely to be hurtful comments about you and him that you don't want to hear.

Good idea to leave the ball in his court.

cheeky_carrie

keep records of everything even things that seem insignificant (sp?) write down info on txts, phone calls, convos anything to do with LO

Ive been through this its awful, we ended up in court (not that I had to be there tho thank god) I get money weekly now after him refusing , hes also meant to see my boys every other week for an over night stay .... they havent seen their dad for 11 weeks now (has no money for petrol etc...... too busy drinking more like ggrrrrrr) and its always " ill get them at 11am and bring them home at 6pm" actually is good for me but not for my boys when they do see him now they come back so different and angry really upsets everyone

I now keep records of when he sees them and if he ever txts etc to see how they are just so he cant turn round and say its me stopping him seeing the boys!!! Id never do that hes their Dad even tho hes a bad one

stay strong xx