anita665

I really want to get back to it but I'm scared. Not that it will hurt but that I look so different. My boobs have gone southward, they're so covered in stretch marks that they could be 1 giant stretch mark and they've gone squishy. My thighs and hips are also covered in stretch marks and down bellow isn't the same either. I'm not sure myself if it's tightened back up but I had a labial tear which wasn't completely stitched so it's still torn looking.

OH has of course seen all this including the tear but it leaves me feeling the opposite of sexy and I can't really get into it if I'm constantly worrying about trying to hide parts of my body or worrying what he thinks. Especially as I tend to compare myself to other women from his past or that I think he likes thinking that he's comparing me. I've always thought he would rather be with a certain someone else and found it hard to tell myself that he wouldn't & it's in my head but now it's worse than ever knowing that certain someone else has a body intact and free from childbirth & I don't!

The other thing is, does it bother you worrying your LO is going to wake up soon?

missjess

I know how you feel... At first I felt so crappy and lost all the confidence I used to have... Kept thinking of all the other perfect bodies he had seen, bodies without strechmarks or flabby boobs...

Also he's seen it all at the birth : the blood, the bladder draining, my downtown stretched to the max, the tearing...

I try not to think about it too much, I'm sure our men are already over it!

Holldoll

I worry about that too. DH says that seeing what my body can do makes him more attracted to me than ever. I hope he feels like that when it finally is time to have sex!

embo216

I had internal and external stitches back front to back and waited 4 weeks before we did it, and it did sting a little bit at first but after using lots of Lube ( life saver! ) I actually enjoyed it!

At first I did worry about LO waking up, but even if she did she wouldnt see anything just her mummy and daddy having fun

Let us know how you get on!

Emily x

tb42

I've been feeling horny for months I guess i will do it a day after the baby is born
The doctor doesn't allowed me to have sex due to my condition. SO i haven't done that for 7 months now ( i'm 7 months pregnant ). Since last month the doctor said everything is fine with my pregnancy now, but i forgot to ask her if we can have sex now. Even my OH said he was going to ask ,but yesterday we saw the doctor and we forgot to ask again. D*mn !!

xarlenex

I was always scared Kyle woke up. Now he sleeps through so we know when its 'safe' lol

I still get quite down now and then about my body and stretchmarks but to be honest if he cant love me for what I am now then he isnt worth it. Luckily my oh tries his best to make me feel good x