Hi everyone.
I don't really talk about it too much here on the site but I have a real problem with my older sister, Sharon and I got to get it out...
Okay, here is some background. My sister Sharon is 29 (19 months older than me) and she has three children. Aurora (9), Tristan (5) and Serenity (2). All three children have different dads. 1 dad is in prison. 1 dad works up on the North Slope (totally out of Tristans' life) and the last dad just got out of prison and sells drugs.
Sharon has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. She has been in and out of AA, NA, Homeless Shelters, Women Shelters, etc. both with and without her kids. In November of last year, the children were taken from her and it took her a month to get them back. To her, "being free" and "becoming one with nature" are more important to her than things like taking care of her kids and paying her rent. She doesn't work or anything. She just loafs around and lives off the system.
Because of all the above reasons, Sharon and I do not see each other very much. The last time I was in her (new at the time) apartment was at Christmas time and it was so nice. She had been given all kinds of furniture and household goods and it looked like a home. I was very happy for her but things have been really spiraling down for her again in the last few months and my mother has been taking care of the older two kids. The baby has gone to live with her paternal grandmother and I seriously wonder if I will ever see her again.
Anyway, today my sister was evicted from that nice apartment I was talking about earlier and, because my mother asked, I went over to help my sister move out. When I walked inside, I was apalled. I mean, even now I just want to cry when I think of the conditions that my poor nieces and nephews were/are living in.
The entire place had an overwhelming odor of ammonia from the cat and dog urine in the house. It was so bad that I started coughing and had to go outside. There was cat shit everywhere. I mean, all over the floors and the carpet. In the kids room. The floors are carpets were stained and wrecked. Food was just ground into the floor everywhere. Milk and coffee stains on the hard floors that had never been picked up. Her cats looked emaciated. She told me the apartment had mice. (YOU THINK?!?!)
I literally have never been in a place so horrid in my life and I grew up in a home that was awful and we were almost taken from my mother. Seriously... I do not even know what to say. My sister is taking about officially signing over the older to children to our mother and that is the ONLY reason why I am not calling the authorities right now. It is sick.
Just in case you are wondering, my sister and mother have asked me several times to take her children in but my husband is against it and I have to respect that. If we taken them, all she will do is continue to have other children and ruin their lives too. Thank god those children have my mother because they all have emotions problems to some extent and behavioral problems as well.
I just want to smack the shit out of my sister for allowing them AND HERSELF to get so screwed up.
The thing about all this is that seeing my sister makes me mad and hurt. I feel like my DH and I will be such good parents but we have to work soooooooooo hard at it.
She has three beautiful kids and treats them like dirt. I hate it.
Sorry for the rant. I just needed to get out my thoughts.
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