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Linzi · May 30th, 2008, 00:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Wobbles

Sweet heart although people say blood (your family) is thicker than water and all that *yawn* sometimes its just the fact you had no choice of your family it doesn't mean you have to like them but no matter what family or a stranger they had NO RIGHT to act like that never mind actually spit the words out along with every other dig, sly & darn right NASTY comments.

What horrid people! Theres members of my family that will never see Caitlin one of them my birth mother and thats the way its staying thats what is best.

Completely agree. And also my birth mother is having nothing to do with my baby either.

Amy: You're a very mature, smart girl and your baby is incredibly lucky to have you. You've proved this by making a step in their direction and trying to make an effort with them.

I just feel so sorry that you have been treated this way.

xxx

xXx Vamp xXx · May 30th, 2008, 00:27 AM

I'm so sorry you had to go through that lovie, my mum is extremely supportive and my dad is "trying" but my OH's mum is the same as yours. In my opinion, they do not deserve to have the joy of being grandparents with attitudes like that. You are a very strong person, and your posts here show that. I wish you all the luck in the world and I know you will an amazing mum. It took a lot for you to try and make peace, and you've done all you can.

And as for the name, its gorgeous! I'm planning on Angel-Rose for a girl, so half in common

Enjoy your pregnancy, and your little girl xXx

kookie · May 30th, 2008, 00:56 AM

Thats horrible no parents should treat their daughter that way you and your precious lil girl dont need them your going to be a fantastic mum and they dont deserve to know their grandaughter xxxxx.

tb42 · May 30th, 2008, 01:44 AM

That must be terrible for you. How can she be soooooooo mean to you. I wish i could say things like you said to my mother ( in law, though )

Mamafy · May 30th, 2008, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by nikky0907

First,I tell them it's a girl,my mother replies ''Oh,I hope you have better luck then we did''!!!!!!!!!!!

I cannot believe how horrible they were to you

IF you ever run into them in the future my only words to them would be, in response to their above quote

" I KNOW my daughter will have better luck than I had"

xxxxxx

doctordeesmrs · May 30th, 2008, 11:16 AM

So sorry your parents are being like that. They don't deserve to be in your daughters life. You will be an amazing mummy

bluebell · May 30th, 2008, 11:23 AM

Hun, I'm sorry to hear how horrible you're parents have been to you

The fact of the matter is you are a much better person than they'll ever be!! You've risen above their derogatory comments in the past and have tried to build bridges with them but they've chosen not to support you and it's totally their loss!!

You don't need negative influences in your life, even if it's your parents!! Hopefully one day they'll come around and apologise for how terrible they've been to you and their granddaughter and you can decide whether you want them to be a part of yours and your daughters life.

I think you're going to make a wonderful mother (with or without your parents support)!!

xx

nikky0907 · May 30th, 2008, 13:35 PM

Ugh,I just hate how depressed and terrible they made me feel.Unfortunatly it's very hard to completely shut down emotions when parents are involved...

But I can't say they never helped me,they gave me a full on image of what kind of parent I don't want to be!

Thanks guys...

BeckyBoo · May 30th, 2008, 13:41 PM

One thing I know about you.

You're going to be a great mum. Because you'll never make your daughter feel the way they made you feel. You'll support her no matter what 'mistakes' she makes, or what accidents she has..

Please, please ignore them, you're a brilliant person.

Also sounds like your mother married above her.

alyxzandra · May 30th, 2008, 15:24 PM

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Originally Posted by nikky0907

I'm never usually depressed,I'm very happy with my life but last night I was at home,completely worn out just thinking all night how I'm terrible and selfish.
I can't give her a proper family,I can't give her grandparents.
What did this poor girl do to deserve a mother like me?

I guess it was hormones and just the side effect of interaction with my parents,I'm feeling much better and back to normal now,specially reading your comments.

Virtual Thanks for all!

Your parents are complete cows and selfish. They obviously have major issues...but, that is it...It is THEIR issues, not yours. And if you choose not to deal with their issues because they are incapable of it, then why should you be forced to put up with their bad behaviour?

It seems all they wanted to do was tear you down in every way they could. And for that, they ought to be ashamed of themselves.

But, I know how you feel in thinking that you cannot offer a "proper" family. I am not in contact with my mom or grandmother because they are terrible towards me. However, I am determined not to follow their example and break the cycle of abusive behaviour.

So, what did your daughter do to deserve a wonderful mother like you? She was conceived and is lucky to have a mother who is aware of what is and what is not good behaviour. She has a mother who is determined not to expose her to such bad influences in order to give her a secure and loving environment, which are the tools she will need in order to survive. I think your daughter will be one lucky little girl and she deserves a mother just like you.

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