tb42

I'm just so stressed out with my MIL. It's been a very long story, could take all my time until my due date ( mid of Aug. ) to tell you all. I need to express this out here and i know it's better than screaming in to her face.
She's very bossy and controling. We live in different continental and i see her about 4 months each year when she comes for a visit.
I feel like she pushing me so much, expect me ( or us ) to live the way she does because she think she knows what's best for everyone and for us. We told her what we want and how we live and we are happy but eveyrtime she comes here she tries to change everything. Every complaints come to me though not her son. she threat him like 8 year-old, spoil him so bad. And keep telling me the house has to be cleaner, i need to do this do that all day long.
She wouldn't stay in the hotel like she did when she visited my OH before we met. Having her one month , 4 times a year is absolutely too much for me. It screws my head so bad.
i tell you this is what happened from last visit.
- i need to clean the kitchen floor with boiling water because it's not clean enough for her son, and he will get bad stomach, too muc germs in there.
- the toilet is not clean enough....
- when i have baby, the best way to clean the clothes is boiling them...
- she painted the doors in the house ( bougth the paint without telling me and she chose the colour and i told her i was very sensitive with chemical due to my pregnancy . she didn't take any notice. When my OH was away for work, she started paintnig at midnight when i was sleeping and i got headache and feeling faint )
- i should make cakes and bla bla bla ( like what she does ) for her son
- i should throw some of my underwear away because they are old ( they are fine )
- she said my OH is working so hard and ..... what i do at home doesn;t make money ( well, 90% of our customers this year come from me , we do online booking and i stay at home to work because of my pregnancy symptoms ) she thinks answeing emails doesn't make money.
- she told me i'm lucky and should be happy that they only buy brand name clothes for the baby ( does she have to mention that everytime she buy clothes ?. we have different attitude. Brand name or not, what's the point.
- she wanted to make me daily working list ( and lied that my OH told her to do it )
she had things to say every day. and she emailed me after she left that i should keep the cleaning on top of everything. and i should email my sister-in-law and talk about my pregnancy ( well, why? she never emailed me ever, anyway )
Now she said i haven't email her enough since she left ( Me and my OH did more than 10 emails and that's not even 2 weeks yet )
i can go one forever... but maybe it's enough ( for now ) .

Mamafy

oh boy you do have it bad, shes needs a good talking to; if you dont put her striaght you are going to have very bad months to come and It will only get MUCH worse once the baby comes

tb42

I lost the count how many times we try to tell her, but she's the type of person who listen to themselves and doesn;t take any notice whatsoever. She thinks she knows best and she would do what she want no matter what we say. The only way to get away from her is i have to divorce my OH.

Mamafy

mine arranged my wedding! so I am with you, divorce your husband and get rid of her

missjess

OMG!

Tilly

Tell her to go and fuck herself /maybe not lol but she sounds like a pain in the ass!!

Tell her that if she wants to stay at YOUR house, she can have things your way or go stay at a hotel. Cheeky cow!!

tb42

Did you really divorce your husband ? I got 2 emails from her complaining about things i never said and never done and sound like i made her a victim. I told my husband if she keeps doing this , soon or later i will leave with the baby. I'm feeling like there's only one final straw keeping me in this relationship.

Katharine-ann

I have alwasy heard people say that the MIL can affect their relationship badly. Never could sympathise with this but now i fully understand about it.

The only thing me and my OH argue about is his monther. Its terrible and makes me get so upset.

I have had a long rant on here before about mine so i wont go into it but basically she is trying to control and manipulate us. She is just jelous her not so little boy prefers spending time with me and not her! I think she feels i have stolen him from her!

tb42

That's exactly what happens with us. We don't have big arguement, but only about her. And i think she still wants her little boy ( my OH ) to be the same as before ( 20 years ago ) and get the same thing what she use to give him ot do for him.

alyxzandra

What a MIL from hell!!! I say as a lovely gift book her for 6 sessions with a psychiatrist because it sounds like she needs it.