Elli21

I feel completely under apprieciated, i feel lonely and ignored and feel like everything i say i have to say 5 times for anyone to take any notice at all! I feel like im half the person i used to be coz every day im defensive and its doing my head in!

My husband and i dont see eye to eye over some things. He says the kids are not a job. Well id like to see him have them all day every day! I am part time at two jobs. I go to work friday night at 9pm and get home on saturday morning at 7am! Do i get some quiet so i can sleep before work friday?? NO. Do i get quiet to sleep after i get in saturday? Well, it depends on whether or not My Husband can be bothered to take the kids out for a few hours.
I work at a fast food restaurant 1 night a week as my hubs doesnt think i should give it up as its extra money ... But i hate that job, which bums me out!
When my husband gets in, no matter how much ive done round the house its not enough. Yet, when i got to work, he has 1 hour with the kids, they go to bed and the house is a shit tip when i get in! He has like 4 hours to himself most nights and i dont ever get ME time unless i go insane!
He works Monday thru to Friday 9am til like 4pm. Sometimes hes even home early. I know hes the main bread winner or whatever but i do my bit to earn money and i am a full time mum too!
If the kids needs baths i have to do it, If the kids need new clothes i have to go and buy them. Blah Blah..i could go on forever.

Leigha is going thru this stage where she will not listen unless i shout at her...and that instantly gets me in a foul mood for a few hours. And Tom, hes a mischief beyound any baby ive ever known!

I just feel really unhappy right now...and i am TIRED...

Sparky0207

Poor you hun, definitely sounds like you are getting a raw deal. Have you sat down and tried talking to your hubby?
It doesnt matter who the main breadwinner is, he needs to help with the kids more, especially if you are working all them hours with very little sleep. If you dont like it at the fast food place then give it up, its one evening and although its extra money, there is nothing worse than doing a job you hate, that will make you tired in itself.

I know how you feel because me and OH are going through a similar stage at the moment. He was great with my pregnancy up until about 2 weeks ago but now it seems like I cant do anything right for doing wrong. If I spend all day cleaning the house while hes out then he either gets home and complains that ive not done enough or if hes in a better mood then he'll complain that im doing too much and need to take it easy for the babys sake - all good and well but I wont live in a shit tip and he doesnt help so I have no choice!

Sit down and have a talk hun. Hope you get it all sorted
xxx

Elli21

Talking with my hubby always seems to get into a row, coz he doesnt ever compamise, he sticks to his guns even when hes wrong! Which is something that he has to work on, but tell him that and hes like, no, im right so im not backing down. tut..i just cant win with him and talking gets me nowhere but into a state.
Im sorry to hear about your other half...maybe hes just being awkward as hes a bit apprihensive but theres no way anyone should work their ass off for no apprieciation!! Your doing a great job Carrying a baby makes things alot harder!

alyxzandra

Oh, I do feel for you. My ex was just like your OH. Stubborn and unwilling to compromise. It totally did my head in to the point where there would be screaming matches. Is there someone both of you can speak to who he would respect and maybe listen to? I cannot give you much advice, but do wish you the best of luck.