missjess

So, some of you knows that my in laws are flying in on friday. They are the type of people that wanna do things all the time and go to many places etc.

Yesterday I was discussing with my husband about the fact that I don't want to be going out everywhere and everyday with Joshua. I think he's too young still to be dragged around all over the place. It's ok to go for a walk or go to the park for an hour or so, but not going sigh see for the whole day nor traveling to some other cities where you need to drive for a couple of hours.

Am I being reasonable? I think I am... Josh is only a month old, still hasn't got vaccinated yet and I really don't think it's appropriate to drag a newborn everywhere.

My husband thinks I'm crazy and doesn't understand my point! I'm so frustrated, I KNOW him and his parents will try to convince me Josh will be fine and they will be very annoying about it. How can I tell them I don't agree AT ALL with going everywhere with baby and they have to respect that?! I'm gonna be the bad girl again for putting my foot down and it's gonna create some tension between all of us which I don't really want.

Why can't my husband support my decision?

Sorry for the rant, but what would you ladies do? Am I being crazy or just normal?

xxleannexx

def not! i still think its a pain to take summer to the shops! i wouldnt dream of taking her to other cities sight seeing. Men just dont understand, i would put you foot down and set some boundaries, like goin out for lunch and a walk in the park etc.

i think what your saying is totally normal and i would be exactly the same, i feel like im packing to go on hol just to go out shopping!

acv_17

I don't really have any advice, I just want to say I hope everything goes well for you. Maybe you can suggest the going to the park or try to find activities you can do at home, like rent a movie or play board games...

leeanne

You know, my daughter was 9 months old when my brother came for a week visit. We did the sightseeing thing a few days and it was stressful. Amanda's routine wasn't being followed, she'd get fussy for her feedings, etc.

I can't imagine how it would be to go sightseeing with a one month old. It's bad enough just going out to grocery shop.

Besides the point, you, yourself are getting into a routine and probably are up during the nights due to feeding. It's going to wear you out.

Good luck hon.

Newt

you stick by your guns hun. It is hard work going out with a newborn, its ok now and then but everyday? no, no, no, no. besides, you are still recovering from birth. Your hubby should al least understand that

missjess

Thanks ladies... I appreciate your reply! I'm glad to see I'm not crazy !

amy_tea

Do what you feel comfortable with hun. He's your son, you need to do what you feel is right. He is still very small and i think you are being more than reasonable since he hasn't had his vaccines... you're only right to protect him hun... your OH should be more supportive

xxx

welshcakes79

utterly agree with you hun,

by all means go for a stroll round the block and let them push him so they can do the proud grandparents thing, but its only been a month since you had him, my midwife friend said that when a woman has a baby its the equivilent stress on her body as that of a heart attack..and i doubt your OH would expect you to sight-see after one of those!!

maybe you could suggest to them that they do the sighseeing and that you and josh could maybe make them a yummie meal when they get back?

if OH still not understanding where you coming from maybe you could get him to do all the childcare for 24hrs (with you there to supervise) and see if he feels like a day out afterwards ...my guess is the answer will be a resounding NO lol XXX

alyxzandra

I agree with the way you feel. You've been pregnant for 9 months and now caring for a newborn. You need rest and so does your baby. Isn't there a compromise they can do with you?