As some of you may remember i have had problems with MIL spoiling things for me from the moment she found out i was pregnant, saying she hated names i'd choosen, hoping it was a girl, booking 2 weeks off when my babies born etc etc.

For the past two days she's visited me twice! which she hasn't bothered doing for the past 7 months, i think as times approaching closer to baby being here she's wanting to get involved now. She's caused an argument between me and OH recently saying she's going to be left out because i spend (naturally) a lot of time with my mum (plus she hasn't bothered with me for 7 months!) she told my OH i could get stuffed! Anyway a lot mores gone on but something she has said these last two occasions has really bothered me....

She said (in a jokingly way) 'i'll have to get parental rights to see my grandaughter'! But i know, although the court bits a joke..., she's serious about wanting to have my baby for the day/night to look after on her own. I am not having this baby to be palmed off on other people all the time! Unless there was a reason e.g. a special birthday or something i wanted to go out on, i won't be leaving her with anyone, why would i ship her off and then sit at home doing nothing?!?

I seriously think she thinks this babies hers, she forgets this is my first baby and i will want to spend all my time mothering her, she's had her kids why can't she butt out and let me have mine! She can come and see the baby whenever she wants and i will take baby to see her, i am just not the type of person to set designated days for ANYONE to have her overnight/for the day. I'm 25 and we planned this baby as we feel ready for a child, I've done all my partying, i don't need to get rid of her every weekend, like some family members do (which i think is why she hopes i will).

Sorry for the long rant, its been bugging me all night!

shockin! i'd tell her were to go, seriously she needs to get a grip an let you an ur OH enjoy this pregnancy + your first baby without havin to stress over whats shes plannin to do next! its hard but try an just ignore her as best as you can until babys here, not long to go now is there! you will have YOUR baby in YOUR arms an YOU get to choose who holds your baby + who looks after YOUR baby! she needs to know where she stands an if your OH won't tell her an its get worse you should tell her how you feelin an let her know how much stress its puttin on you.

hope everything works out ok *HUGS* xxxxx

My OHs mum doesn't seem interested in this baby atall.

Same here toria, she even told me at the beginning i HAD to get rid because she wasnt willing to provide for the baby!

Its MY baby, thats my job to provide for my baby!

I wish mine would take a few steps back lol

She's not interested in me just the baby, i think she thinks its her chance of having a daughter sort of, coz she's never had one.

She goes for 7 months and just now starts to bother? And now she is saying all this stuff? She sounds possessive and jealous...maybe she is also feeling a bit of guilt?

since i am not in the exact position, i cant comment on the baby bit but i did have the MIL from the movie monster in law. Until one day i confronted her in the same manner (or tactic rather) that she did with me. my MIL would make snide comments so that just i heard them but always acted stupid when i reacted so i looked hysterical and oversensitive.

Basically i confronted her in the toilet of a family friends wedding and let her know that i am here to stay and she had better get used to it but i am not taking shit anymore.....in a nutshell. well needless to say she has never done the smarmy comments and even if she did, i dont care (its not like shes veer going to change) but in effect her issues are hers. i am now incredibly false (even if i think shes quite pathetic) and its more for my Dh than for her. I dont really listen to her opinions (i have other better places since my mom is also not the best)....

anyways, try think laterally and beat her at her own game. If she shows up etc, make a fake apointment up and leave her alone (and ask her to finish off baby's laundry while you enjoy a nice stroll with baba at your 'apointment')....

I am evil, i know. but i win!!!!

Love it!!!

I know where your coming from my OH's mum lives in spain and has booked to come over for a month when baby born(which i thought ok try and deal with) now she says she doesn't want to stay in a hotel and wants to stay with US?!?! I said to my OH i dont mind her coming and seeing her grandson But staying with us when he is just born aint happening. He hasn't got the guts to tell her yet, but if he doesn't i wouldn't think twice at telling her lol.

You should speak to your OH and express your concerns and maybe mention that you feel like his mum thinks it her baby and not yours etc. Failing that declare....WAR lol

xxx