I think he thinks she's joking half the time! but i can tell she's not and that she must have thought about these things, as i have never instigated a conversation about schools, staying over etc etc

Or maybe burying his head in the sand? But, your OH is in a tough spot. She obviously did think these things over. But, maybe a firm, but polite hand will keep her in check. And if she is showing jealousy, maybe it is best not to react to it. And if she does go to your OH with complaints, she will be the one to look foolish. I wish you the best of luck and do not envy your position.

Aw hun. Overbearing, pushy, possessive MIL's can be the hardest situation sometimes. You have to show them respect since they are your DH's mom. But they can drive us crazy! Throughout mine and DH's whole relationship, she has been possessive of her son. He is the baby, and she has close relationships with both her kids. We got together when we were in high school, and I was his first gf. During a fight of ours once, I knocked on their door (I think I was like 17). She answered and said "I think its best that you are Den break up. You two argue too much, and he gets pissy when you do. It's not good for either of you. You shouldn't call him anymore." Basically she was trying to break up with me for her son, who didn't want to break up LOL. It was a big deal to tell her we were moving in together, then getting engaged. Oh man, when we told her we were pregnant, she had the nerve to say, "You know, you two are still young, and you have options about what you want to do about this pregnancy". I cant even explain how mad I was. I looked at DH, and he was like "Thats not an option for us, we want our child!" But now that our daughter is here, she has already insisted on DH taking me on a date night and allowing her to watch Erica for 2 hours. We are basically obligated to go to her house every Friday to visit. Once we get there, I dont get to hold Erica til we leave except for while I'm breastfeeding. Oh! BTW, just another benefit of breastfeeding, when people want to hold your LO and you want some quality time alone with them, its a great excuse to leave the room alone with LO. Or with DH in tow. I love when we are over at her house, and Erica needs to be fed. Me, DH, and Erica get to spend an hour alone together in our room there. Oh, lol another thing she has tried to do. First tried to say we should move in with her. We said no way, but thanks. Second, tried to convince us that we should buy a house down the street from her. The mortgage payments would be twice what we are paying now!

I also have a close relationship with my mom, she comes over like everyday. MIL has told me that she is jealous that my mom gets to come over a lot. Good luck with your MIL! I think everyone has a hard time with theirs sometimes.

Your all talking rubbish......of course your MIL knows best, They're mum/mom of the century

No, Seriously, you just have to put your foot down with them! At the Hosp when I'd had my LO my MIL handed Noah back to me and said 'Watch his head!' WTF......then in another sentance 'Mum's know best!'

It was a battle and a half for my MIL to realise I was the woman in my OH's life and also to get him to stand up to her. Once she realised we were taking no Sh*t she took a few (hundred) steps back!

Don't be pushed in to a corner

xx

OMG are we talking about my MIL here????? lol!!!! Mine is exactly the same!

Boy could I tell you some stories about her! She is obsessed with my daughter as she never had one and my OH is an only child. She was awful when I first had her but not so bad theses days but still has her moments! She kept calling herself mummy instead of nanny "accidently", she was horrified that I put my daughter to sleep on her back saying that I was going to kill her and no matter how much I told her it's what you do now she wouldn't stop going on! She even smugly told me once that while babysitting she put her on her front! I went mad I tell you! She constantly interferred in our lives even to the point that she'd ring me in the morning telling me how to dress my daughter for the day and then she'd ring at night to see how she was. If she was ill it was all my fault and I'd done something wrong. She hated it that I used Infacol for colic and said it was bad for her??? She hated it if I gave jar food and turned her nose up at food I'd made so I couldn't win. She constantly asked to have her for the day and overnight and always went on about taking her on holiday, in fact the day after I had her she started asking when she could have her! When I got pregnant this time she started saying that my daughter needs to start staying overnight ready for when I have this baby as she wants to have her for a week so we can settle in with the new baby??? I was like noooo!!! I'm not leaving my daughter as she'll feel pushed out bless her! She questions the nursery she goes to and even the school I intend to send her too. Oh I could carry on forever.....but I won't....

Oh! dear. i dont want to say much but it sounds like your MIL is on the same side as mine We could write 10 books about ours really. My MIL is very obsessed with cleaning. She's real ENglish woman from different centuries and it's like : the best way to get baby's clothes cleaned is to boil it , or we need termometer when we have the baby in the room, and she's the one who will decorate the nursery, she was going to make me daily working list and said my OH told her to do it ( he didn't , she lied and at the end she didn;t make it, my face gave her the message ), i need to clean the floor with boiling water to get rid of the germs, i shouldn't use nails's clipper for baby but i should bite it off BLA BLA BLA BLA .....the thing is we are different; culture, age and everything...you girls might think why i don't say anything to her. it's been 5 years girls and does she take any notice? ( you know the answer )

ok my mil organised my wedding picked my music, cake, flowergirls, venue, video hire the lot anyone beat that?

I'm guessing somewhere down the line these controlling women go to school to learn how to be THEE worlds worst mil.....ever!

My mil has a knack of twisting ever thing I say/do so that I am nuts and I'm guessing shes turning me that way

OH.... MY... GODDDDDDDD !!! Which planet is she from ?
I'm quite surprised how we all manage to keep us with them, MIL

she wouldnt organise it now though, I've got alot toughter these last 18 years, my god I've had to but it just shows you how some people are

Not only did she insist on planning it, but during the ceremony (we're Jewish) she drank the wine by mistake she was supposed to give to me!!!!

ha ha.......