She is very jealous, she was only asking me yesterday if i see my mum everyday, i just said yes. She is very close to her son, my OH, to the point of being possessive. I think she would like it to just be her, my OH and my baby to be honest!

I don't want to upset OH by falling out with her so i will just have to do as someone said and play her at her own game if she starts being too overpowering. She can see her grandchild whenever, i have no problem with that, i just dont want her going off to stay with different people for the day/night, she's not a toy that can be borrowed out!

Thanks for all the advice x

oh just remembered the other thing she said 'she can't go to schools round here, she'll have to come and live with me so she can go to a better school' I just spouted off all the schools reviews i have read and that in fact the one nearest to our home was infact rated the best

My MiL mentioned recently that she would look after our LO so that we could go on holiday on our own - I thought what a bizarre thing to offer to do! Like I´m going to go away on holiday without my child!!!

I think the best thing to do with MiL´s is to stand your ground and not back down. I´m just grateful that mine is a 4 hour drive away!

I wish my MIL would step back as well, she's not as bad as yours, doesn't talk about me leaving the baby with her during the day/overnight but she's always telling me things I already know............like I shouldn't leave her unattended in the bathtub and need to wash all of her clothes before I put them on her.........I know I'm a new parent but do I really need to be told those things??

My MIL does this too she rang me to tell me she will bring round a doll when she is next over and she will show me how to wash the baby so i dont look bad in front of the M/W in the hospital and dont dont show her and the family up by looking like a 1st time mum.....HELLO i am 1st time mum they cant expect us to be pro's!! lol i could rant all day about my MIL xxx

You are going to have to be blunt with her & nip it in the bud now she has no right to make you feel like this and it will only get worse when LO is here. I would ask your OH to have a firm word with her & make it clear its YOUR baby & things will be done how you want them to be done & no other way!!

Oh brother! She sounds like a fun one!

Best wishes and I hope she eases off on you soon!

Sorry but the showing you how to wash a doll as practice really made me laugh, aren't MIL's the best! Weren't they ever first time mums!

oh thats too right ha ha. it is war. look, i have also realised that I may need my MIL so be false and smart - beat her at her own game (its easier than it looks actually). Hey, i am even throwing her a party for her birthday next week and on the odd occassion i say "love ya...." and then complete the sentence in my head "....to go put more cream on your wrinkles - yes you are old, stop competing with me!!!"

ha ha but i try be more respectfull. its also important to realise she's my hubby's mother and for that I am gratefull to her......so she can have quality time with her grandkiddies when they get here - but on my terms!!!!

Oh, she is way too possessive. And sounds so controlling. Does your OH support you?