anita665

She met Pierre when he was just 5 days old. I'd told her before he was born that I wanted at least a week to be left alone but my nan said she was getting very down about it and had been saying how people were 'looking down on her' because she hadn't seen him yet.

I wasn't very happy about it but she invited herself over. She turned up in a strange mood and with hardly even a hello she took him out of my arms while he was sleeping saying can I hold him as she took him. She obviously woke him up and then stuck her fingers in his mouth to calm him (she has a real lack of personal hygiene).

I'd been struggling to sleep and was feeling very low as it was and this was really winding me up. I just wanted to cry. It was a struggle to get him back from her and then I said I'd take him for a walk with her (trying to be a bit friendly). As soon as we got back she was at it again just taking him out of his pram.

After that I was so angry and fed up I felt I didn't want to see her again for a long time. I feel the way I do towards her for a good reason and given that I was feeling down anyway after giving birth I really wanted things to go at my own pace to stop myself getting depressed but she couldn't care less as long as she's getting what she wants!

Now I've found out she's coming to our restaurant on Saturday for a meal with the family and I'm dreading it because I know I'm going to have to go through all of that again. I can't stop thinking about it and I don't know how to deal with her to stop her upsetting me again. I'm trying really hard to keep it together and fight off PND (as I have a history of depression) & I don't want anything bringing me down.

Any ideas how I can get her to leave him alone on Saturday?

Vickie

I'm worried about this happening with one of my family members, she keeps telling me that while we are in Texas visiting she won't let any one else hold the baby, and she's serious! I've just made up my mind that this is MY baby and if I want her back or think she needs a rest I will say so. Also my mom has told me several times that she has no problems taking the baby from my niece when she thinks it's someone else's turn to hold her or the baby needs a rest. Is there anyone in your family that you could get to run interference for you like my mom is planning on doing?

Emmea12uk

i dont have any advice i am afraid, i am worried about the same thing to be honest. both my parents dont look after themselves and i know they dont wash very regularly at all - let alone wash their hands. He is going to be getting over surgery and they are going to want to hold him as much as possible. I would freak if they stuck their fingers in his mouth!