REALLY PEEVED OFF AT THE MINUTE! I HONESTLY DON'T CARE HOW OUT OF ORDER I AM BEING!

MY MUM USED TO BE ENGAGED TO SOME MAN CALLED CARL, I WAS REALLY CLOSE WITH HIM + EVEN MY LITTLE SISTER STARTED CALLIN HIM DAD! EVERYTHING WAS GOIN FINE BETWEEN THEN TILL HE UPPED + LEFT MY MUM AT THE WORST POINT EVER (ON THE NIGHT I TOOK AN OVERDOSE - LONG STORY) AN GAVE HER THE EXCUSE OF 'I HATE SEEIN WHAT TONY (MY DAD) IS PUTTIN THE GIRLS THROUGH' BUT IT JUST SO HAPPENS THAT TWO WEEKS LATER HE HAD A NEW GIRLFRIEND + WAS LIVIN WITH HER, FEW MONTHS DOWN THE LINE THEY GOT ENGAGED AN MY MUM WAS LEFT HEARTBROKEN AN WOULDNT MOVE ON . MY MUM STARTS GETTIN HAPPY AGAIN AN NOW CARL HAS SPLIT UP WITH HIS FIANCE + WANTS TO GET BACK WITH MY MUM AN SHES LETTIN HIM BACK IN HER LIFE (WITHOUT TELL US, YEH IT MIGHT BE HER BUSINESS BUT I DONT WANT TO BE AROUND SOMEONE WHO PUT MY MUM THROUGH SO MUCH PAIN EVEN IF SHE HAS FROGIVEN HIM!!) I HATE HIM FOR WHAT HES DONE TO OUR FAMILY, ESPECIALLY THE HEARTBREAK HE LEFT MY MUM WITH , I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY SHE IS LETTIN HIM IN AGAIN? I LOVED HIM BEIN IN OUR LIFE AS I NEVER NEW WHAT I WAS LIKE TO HAVE A DAD TO BE THERE FOR ME , BUT NOW I HATE HIM!
SHE KEEPS MEETIN UP WITH HIM AN HES JUST BEEN OUTSIDE TALKIN TO HER + OUR JESS, (ONLY OUTSIDE COS I SAID I'D CAUSE MURDER IF HE CAME NEAR ME)
I DON'T WANT MY MUM TO GET HURT AGAIN IS THAT SO WRONG?

SORRY FOR THE RANT JUST REALLY ANGRY

Your mum is old enough to make her own mistakes. Unfortunately you just have to act like the bigger person and be there for her if/when it all falls apart.

No, it's not wrong to not want your mom hurt again. I can certainly understand why you would feel that way. Hey, as I was growing up there were a few guys that my mom dated that were just no good for her and hurt her. She brought them back into our lives but eventually she smelled the roses. I detested them for what they did, but at the same time, I couldn't tell her what to do.

Hey, what if Adam came crying back to you? Your mom would be angry and wouldn't want to see you hurt. Right? But, in the end, you would make your own decision no matter what anyone thought.

Unfortunately, sometimes love is blind.

i'm not strong enough to be the 'bigger' person this time. i hate havin to pick her up every time he drops her an she goes through the 'stages' of breakin up with him again + again. x

I don't think i would let Adam back in my life (only the babies) no matter how much i feel for him because i don't want to have to put myself at risk of gettin hurt by him again.

i just wish she wouldnt be so blind an open her eyes to see what hes really like i hate the fact that i KNOW he will hurt her an it will be left to me + jess to be the pick up once again, yeh shes a grown woman but damn she doesnt half pick the wrong men. my mum is a wonderful amazin woman who deserves a some one who will treat her with respect + love her for who she is. xx

I only said that because I have read your posts and seen that you still have many feelings for him. Yes, a lot is anger but you've also said that you still love him.

Hon, my mom picked the wrong men too. She's now been single, oh goodness, for so long I can't remember. I learned from her mistakes and made sure that I didn't follow them. But I remember so well the abuse against her, her broken heart, etc. It truly is sad as she is a wonderful woman too.

I look back and I so wished she had someone that was good to her and who treated her like she should have been treated and that she had this special someone by her side now.

So, hon, I do understand truly!

I understand why you said it, i guess really because of how much i love him is why i wouldn't get back with him so i didnt get hurt, i wouldnt want him to take advantage thats all.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum, its hard to deal with as you know never mind what our mums are goin through. he may have changed but he will have to prove himself before i change my mind how i think/feel about him. xx

Well, the one thing good is that you are verbal and told your mom how you felt. I never did when I was your age and I wish I had. Your mom will keep that in her mind and I am quite sure that her children's happiness comes first. Hopefully she will go at a cautious pace and hey, he may surprise all of you and turn out to be that special someone.

And I admire you for your strength about Adam!

i don't think my mum liked the fact of how 'verbal' i was haha, just getin my point accross to her that i dont want her gettin hurt an oh an if i see him outside ours again i was goin to stab him but its okk i was just angry lol. some were 'wayyyyyy wayyyyy' deep down i think he could have been 'the one' for her but he needs to prove himself big time in order to get in my good books haha.

I have to be strong over Adam otherwise i would have had him back by now an made such a fool of myself if anything happened but who knows what will happen in the future, when hes matured an grown up x

I'd be worried to but like the others have said she has to make her own decissions and mistakes and if anything does go wrong you just gotta be there for your Mum

Ive had my fair share of bad relationships and you do tend to go back I thought I wasnt worth anything better (long story) but had my eyes opened wen my ds2 was 1 and realised i deserved far more ..... my new partner treats me like a princess I treated him like crap for a while just because I wasnt used to it, dunno why or how he stuck with me but Im soooooo happy he did and Ive never been happier


stay strong