Sparky0207

When me and OH first got together he had a bit of a reputation for having a different girl on his arm every night - to be honest i never really thought we'd end up together, i thought it was more of a fling. But when we started getting more serious the fact that he'd slept around a lot really bothered me - it seemed that every girl I was friends with or every girl I spoke to had had something to do with him in the past. I got over that eventually because it was before we met and everyones got a past....the only reason this one girl winds me up so much is because he cheated on me with her, so thats not part of his past, its part of our past, which I think is much more difficult to come to terms with!
It is hard not to think about it, I definitely agree with you on that one

mBLACK

If a man cheated on me I would expect him to have no contact with her anymore.. I know it sounds controlling, but at least until I knew I could trust him again. You need to accept that this was a big thing he did that hurt you alot - and you will think about it and old feelings will rekinder sometimes, just talk it out with him I'm sure he'll understand. I completely agree with what Tasha says - forgive but never forget.