Single Dada here.

Hello single dad!

I guess it must be different for different people, but for me, things have been pretty good. I think talking about things is important though, as it's hard when you don't agree on something.. although I think I get the say overall seeing as I'm looking after Ryan pretty much all the time lol. At first he'd come round to see Ryan every day (as he got some kind of paternity leave), and he sees him a few times a week now, and we all go to his parents' for Sunday lunch. I think as long as you're both reasonable and discuss things, you'll be fine x

Single mummy here too = ]

Its great to hear there are other single mums out there, its really encouraging. I'm really scared about doing it alone, especially since bubs' Dad doesn't want to know at all, which makes me really sad, since bubs was actually sort of planned.

I feel like people are judging me because I'm going it alone, but I'm determined to do the best job I can, without daddy's help.

I think it makes me more determined when I think people are judging me - for being young as well as single I guess. I'm convinced I'm going to prove some people wrong if they think I'm going to do a bad job of it. Just think though.. you get all the kisses and cuddles to yourself and you'll be THE most important person in your child's life

I can understand people judging. I have had a lot of people who don't think I can "man" up to the situation even though for the past 7 1/2 months I have and will continue to do everything I can for the boys even with out their mom present. It's not easy and its not going to get any easier but it is definately rewarding to know the smiles and laughter you hear from your kids is all due to your hard work and loving.

Don't let other peoples opinions get to you, even though I know they will, you know what you are doing right and you know what your child needs and with that and love it will get you through this.

Thanks Lauren-Kate and Diggy. That's exactly how i'm beginning to see it. I know I can do the job of bringing up my own baby well, and like you say people judging you makes you more determined, definitely. I just often wish people would praise me for taking this attitude rather than laughing at me.

At the end of the day when you need that praise & pat on the back and you aren't getting it out there, you can come here and a bunch of us will pick you right back up. And when your little baby comes he will be doing giving it back to you every time he smiles at you or cuddles with you.

Thanks guys,very encouraging words...

I don't know,I love my baby girl already and I'm happy that she'll be in my life in a few months but I there is still that little insecurity I have and lots of questions.
I'm worried that me and her dad will stop get along,that something ugly will happen,all this responisability is on my shoulders.
Not to mention the judging from other people part,young and single and with a baby...
And I'm scared that she'll have a disorted image of a family because she never saw her parents as a couple.

All those things that will be so different to her...

Wow im so glad im not the only single mummy to be who gets so worried!!

I know what some of you mean about the whole being judged issue. Its hard but f**k them lol. We all know we're doing a great job!

Ive recently entered the very angry stage with my babys dad & his family. Like really angry. I find myself saying out loud when im alone what I would say to them given the chance!!!

grrr