Hello all, i'm new to these forums, but already i've found them a great help to me.

I'm feeling very anxious at the moment. My partner and I had been together for over a year and got engaged 4 days after Christmas. Unofficially we were trying for a baby, but took the attitude of.. if it happens it happens and if it doesn't then no big deal.

OH works away - he's in the RAF and I still live with my Dad, but we were planning on moving in together on base once we got the wedding sorted, so in the time being I was contending with seeing him only on weekends. Obviously that wasn't ideal for TTC but we struck lucky.

I got my BFP and decided to surprise Daddy with the exciting news, only he informed me he wouldn't be home for a few weeks, so I caved and told him over the phone. His reaction wasn't what I was expecting.. he basically told me it wasn't the right time, and he didn't think I should keep the baby etc. Very strange. I left him to it thinking he needed to let it sink in but it didn't. After some snooping from moi I found out exactly why he didn't want bubs.. he's been cheating on me. So I confronted him, he denied it, I reeled off everything I knew and he was basically trapped.

So now we've split up. Firstly I can't believe he cheated on me, but secondly I can't believe he's chosen a girl of 3/4 weeks over his fiancé and baby. I'm heartbroken. I've spoken to him on the phone several times since and tried to persuade him that he needs to get his priorities straight but he's made his feelings perfectly clear.

I'm scared this is all going to affect the baby. I'm only 8 weeks gone so in that 'danger' zone still, and me crying all the time and so on isn't going to help, but I can't stop myself. I'm also now terrified of the prospect of being a 22 year old single Mum, and the fact my baby will be born into a broken family.

I have the support of my family and friends, but its not the same. Finding out I was pregnant was one of the best days of my life along with getting engaged and now its all come crashing down around me.

I just don't know what to do anymore

He doesn't deserve you or your baby. You'll both be fine. Don't worry about him. He'll get what's coming to him one day.

Really sad for you. Men can be such childish arseholes. If he's going to behave like this he certainly doesn't deserve you. Theres alot of fantastic people on this forum, so if you need us we're all here.

He certainly doesn't deserve you or the baby but hopefully he'll come around and at least want to be there for his child in the future.

Thanks ladies. I just feel so useless now, almost like people are gossiping behind my back and laughing at me because i've gotten myself into this situation. The timing is brilliant as it always is.

I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy, but I feel I can't because Daddy is being an idiot. Friends have told me he'll come round, but if anything I know him and I know he's made up his mind for good.

Whatever he decides, enjoy your pregnancy inspite of it. You're going to have such an amazing experience. Don't let him ruin it.

What a B@ST@RD!! I would have chopped his bollocks off and threw them round me ears!

But seriously he doesnt deserve you or the baby after what he done. Try to enjoy your pregnancy as much you can at the end you will have beautiful baby to care for. As for trying to presuade him i know it easier said than done but is he really worth it?? xxx

Agree with toria, regardless of the situation, you are having a baby!! That's an amazing thing!

Cheaters make me so angry. I know it's easy for someone outside of the situation to say but I would do everything I can to forget him if I were you. Like everyone's said he doesn't deserve you or your baby.

I hope things get better for you.

If he's truly this immature and pathetic little creature,you and your baby are better off without...
If it hadn't happened now,it would happen sometime in the future,sad but true.

You hang in there,do your best and be a good parent.

Me and my baby's dad are not together because we know that our little girl will be better living in a happy environment that living with parents who don't have a steady relationship.
A home can be wrecked even if the parents are together...