I'm very sorry for what you are facing right now but everyone else is correct and One a cheater always a cheater. So even if he would come back and say he wants to try again with you, could you really trust him to not turn around and do it again?

From the sounds of it you sound pretty strong minded, and you state you have the support of family. You child will not grow up in a broken home as long as he is loved. He doesn't need to grow up with a father to be happy, yes it would help you out some but sometimes it is better to be without than with someone who cares more about himself than his own family he willingly created.

I know it's not easy and no one is saying it is but you do need to try to calm down for the wellbeing of yourself and this unborn child. Enjoy the pregnancy, this baby will have so much love to give you that it will never compare to him or any other man that comes into your life.

WHAT?! He said that to you? How dare he put you down after all he has done to you. What makes him more qualified to talk such rubbish when the only thing he can look after is his own penis? And that does not take much effort. He is just trying to mess with your mind so he does not have to take on any responsibility. You just stay strong. And if you need support, you can always PM me.

Maybe he was like this all along and he is finally showing his true colours? But, I know how you feel. My ex turned into a nasty piece of work and that was after being with him for 8 years. It is shocking when it happens.

As for slapping him, I am not against violence. And he deserves a good slap.

Yep, those were his exact words. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, and in the end the latter took over me. I replied in a sarcastic manner 'Oh thanks very much' and he just retorted 'Well I'm only stating the truth'.

The only thing he's managing to do is make me more determined to do a better job than both of us put together would have done. My Mum and her partner are nearby and very excited at the prospect of being a Grandma. Same goes for my Dad and his partner. So that's 4 Grandparents the baby is going to have love them without his being involved. I want them involved, they're bubs' paternal Grandparents, but with Daddy's behaviour right now, they're looking at not getting to see their Grandchild.

I don't want to be a bitch but he's determined to make my life hell, despite him being the one to stray and ruin everything we had and planned. I've got to look after myself and baby.

Ok its now how you've planned it but you still have your precious little baby, take care of it and forget about him, hes not worth it

Dont worry Vicky at one point my babys dad decided to go round telling everyone that I had a cocaine habit & social services were already involved!!

Makes me laugh what these absent fathers will say to bring you down!!

Note - I dont have a coke habit. I dont know why he made that up coz the idea is laughable lol

Hey Vicky, great 2 cu on here huni..And i just wanna say first of all if u need anythin, chat or anythin u know ur welcome to come over for a cuppa anytime! Anyways, im so sorry for the awful time u must be going through right now..but Gav really doesnt deserve u or bubs sweetie. I cant really say anythin that will help or change whats happened but i am thinkin of you and i know you'll be a fab mummy even if u do have to do it alone.To be honest, even if he did come round, i wouldnt take him back but thats me. Your baby will not lose out..he/she will have a great mummy who loves him and thats all that matters. xxx

Thanks Sammi I might take you up on your cuppa offer, i've still not seen Oli! Shameful.

As for Gav, its just hard to take in. You know how happy we were and how excited I was when we got engaged. Its just shocking how someone can change so much in such a small space of time. I know he's going to regret all this one day, but I can't do anything to make him see sense. Its out of my hands.

Yeah i understand hun. I cant believe he said what he said to you, what the f*** does he know. Soz hun but that is totally out of order saying you cant look after bubs on your own. Sure u can! There's plenty amazin single mum's out there who do a wicked job, he's talkin crap..don't let him put u down. I can't believe how selfish this guy is. You deserve so much better. By the sounds of it your baby will be much better off without daddy if he's going to be like this. Enjoy being pregs and take care of her! You and bubs are all that matter right now. I am so sorry for what ur goin through hun, hugs. Let me know when your free xxx

Oh hun, welcome to the forums and big ! Your ex is just lashing out because he is mad that you haven't fallen down and collapsed unable to cope without him! He's a childish, jellous arse of a guy and you are so much better off without him (no matter how painful the prospect of being on your own might seem...). I know how painful infidelity is, and just how much your heart is breaking with the realisation that the man you were prepared to marry is not who you thought he was at all... All I can say with regards to that, is it WILL get better in time (I promise ) I know that facing single parenthood is very scary, and nothing I can say will make it less so... but keep it in your mind that many women do a better job on their own than some couples do - I'm sure you'll be one of them, sweetheart Everything happens for a reason, and it's better that you've found out now so you can focus on your own little family of just the two of you, than to bring the baby into a family including that selfish man, only to discover what he was up to later on in the relationship and have your darling baby go through a break-up...

I'm so sorry for everything that you're going through. If you ever want to talk feel free to pm me or add me to msn... x

you should make him a set of earings... out of his balls

WHAT A WANKER

before i got with my OH my ex before him cheated on me, I went on rampage, never mentioned to him i had found out, so the next day i got some sort of paint stripper from my friends dad and went to town on my exs pride and joy... his new black car muhahahaaa. very mature of me?! but frigging hell it felt good!!!

as hard as it is/is going to be you need to move onwards and upward for the sake of you and your child. keep your chin up... and try not to give in to your mental side as i did.
its up to you wether you would take him back if he came crawling but you defo deserve better. concentrate on yourself and LO