Younglutonmum

Hiya Vicky,

Honestly you're going to be fine. My babys dad left me when I was 10 weeks gone. I was a complete & utter mess. Constantly crying & feeling like id never enjoy my pregnancy. At times I felt like I resented my little angel.

Im now 23 weeks gone & couldnt be happier. Yeh I have low days but then I feel my baby kick & im smiling again.

Hopefully in time ur babys dad may become more supportive. You may not get back together (but would u even want him after what he's done??!!) But he may start showing more interest in the baby. At first my babys dad didnt want to know but now he phones once & week & he's sort of facing up to his responsibilites (he's still a pr**k though lol)

Trust me though, uve got something amazing going on so just remember that

X

Newt

even if he comes around......would you really want him now?
after all this?
Be strong hun you will get along, people do it all the time. And in 2 or 3 yrs time you will be somewhere else, somewhere better, with someone who loves and deserves you. You'll see!

leeanne

This is no consolation, but thank goodness you found out now that he was cheating than after you got married. I always say, once a cheater always a cheater.

I understand that you are heartbroken and I so feel for you. In time and as your pregnancy goes on, I think you will find peace and happiness in the thought that you are having a baby. A baby is a reward to one's life.

Wishing you all the best!

alyxzandra

How terrible and selfish of him!!!! However, you have been given a precious gift - your baby. I do wish you all the best.

~ Vicky ~

Thanks ladies He called me again last night and once again had me in bouts of tears over his behaviour so I'm leaving him to it now. He knows I won't change my mind so he's wasting his time.

Bubs is my total number one priority. Just wish Daddy was there to enjoy it too. Stupid man.

cupcake

im sorry you have to go through this, you have no reason to feel silly about your situation you were engaged and had discussed having a baby with your fiance, i mean who could think that wasnt a stable situation. he sounds like a real piece of work and has no right to keep making you upset. i am sure you can do it and be a great mom. you said ure sad your baby will be born into a broken family but a family where the dad is around and resenting it and cheating on the mom is far worse in my opinion. this baby will have a loving mom and a safe environment and it sound like lots of people around who love you. if its dad will be part of the picture one day will be up to him but you have to protect your baby and provide the best home for it.

Marker

Do you know the person he cheated on you with?

If this girl is his new piece then she is a bit silly getting invloved with someone who has just abandoned his fiance and baby. Having been through a similar situation with my OH I feel for you hun. Distance either makes or breaks a relationship!

~ Vicky ~

No, I don't know her. He himself has only known her a maximum of 4/5 weeks. He moved bases to start his trade-training and met her on a night out, and thats when they hooked up.

She knows all about me and all about our baby, but she's still with him. I don't know about anyone else but I wouldn't voluntarily put myself into that position so soon after meeting someone. I guess it must be the whole 'its new and exciting' thing, but it doesn't make it any easier to think he's chosen her, already, over us. I think that's why I'm taking it as bad as I am.

alyxzandra

It sounds like you are better off without someone like that, in my humble opinion. A man like that is a snake in the grass and the woman he is involved with is just as selfish and bad as he is. I personally could not be with a man who was in his situation.

As for the baby, he may come around after a while, but if he does not, he is missing out on something wonderful. But, you will not be the one missing out. And as for people laughing and gossiping, these people are not your friends. In times of need you always find out who you can count on. I find people who point fingers the most are the ones who always find themselves screwed over in the end.

Many, many

~ Vicky ~

Thanks alyxzandra

The latest from this even is him saying to me "You can't look after this baby on you're own. You're in denial you think you can"

Ugh it makes me mad how someone changes so much in a matter of weeks. I'm against violence completely but I could happily slap both him and his bit of fluff right now.