Hiya im sorry i keep writing my problems but you lot are the only people i can really talk to that give me advice.

Well after my other post, things dident get better he kept f****** off out every time his mates rang him up asking him to do things for them.

Yesterday
I went to my dads gfs house for abit i rang him up after work and said im just at julies house and he said im just popping out and asked what time im back. I said 10pm he said il be back for then. I started smiling as normaly he would say he dont know what time he is going to be back and normaly trails in at like 12. So i was looking forward to going back but i was running late as i had trouble printing something off there and had to go supermarket to get some more foundation lol.


So i left the supermarket about 10:20pm so i was late i rang him up while i was in car "no answer on house phone"...... "no answer on his mobile"....So i rang his mates phone and guess what he wasent back yet i really thought he would be there waiting for me like im always waiting for him but no i was wrong i goes its passed 10 he said il be there soon. About 10 mins later i got to his house raced to the door....and it was locked more fool me he wasent back. Dident want to ring his mate thought id leave it as he said he would not be long......minutes passed he still wasent back i felt so upset that yet again he lied to me about being back the time he said. I went outside and i heard the back door gate go but i dident go over to him i dident even want to talk to him.

I just kept on walking then he rang me off his dads phone and asked where i was and i said im walking he said you said you was back i goes i was waiting for you and all he could say was so what im an hour late.

About 10 mins later i went back in i just sat there on the bed thinking why does he always lie to me. I started geting upset and started crying, he cares for his mates more then me. I dont mind him going and seeing his mates but he does it every night now and dont come back till late and the days he says he is going to spend with me his mates ring him up. He says he got to do something and will be back in 5 mins im waiting still half an hour later. i have to ask to spend a day with him.

well he promised he is going to spend tonight with me so il see what happens

Sounds like a dick to me.

umm sounds like a dick to me as well, if he dont buck his ideas up get rid.

I agree with above /\ hope your ok tho xxx

I would say dont hang on his every word and dont be waiting for him all the time. he knows that he doesnt have to make an effort because regardless of what he does, you will always be there waiting for him. If it were me, i would meet up with my friends, family etc ....see how he likes it to come home to an empty place....

i used to be in a relationship like that when i was your age (i wasnt prgenant though) but i used to wait for him all the time and when he said HE wanted to see me i would say HOw Hi!!! ha ha but when I wanted to see him, he wouldnt go out of his way to see me so I started to stop being at his beck n call. When i finally saw the light and dumped him, he was so shocked and actually admitted that he thought i would always be there and put up with anything because up until i had finished with him, i had!!!

When he wants to see you maybe say well not now actually i have made other plans seeing as your unreliable. The minute it seems like you are not running to his every call he will be on your case....!!

Also, try not to call his friends....if he is out, then he is out.....if his phone is off then his phone is off..... then what you should do is go out....and when he comes home and says where are you, then you say well i would have told you but your phone was off....you dont want to be naggy and moany all the time....thats when men switch off and stop hearing you....give him space, dont badger him and when he is out, leave him...then after a while of you being reasonable sit him down and explain calmly how it makes you feel...he is more likely to listen if he sees that your arent moaning/nagging.....trust me i used to do the same thing...but then i had a boyfriend who did it to me and it was not nice...made me feel so pestered!

Its hard but hang in there if he is the one for you....if he isnt, then get rid....xx good luck xx

Couldn't have said it better myself!!!

Hope he stops being such a loser and picks himself up a bit hun.

xxx

Havent got anything to add but

How old is your BF? Is he in his teens too?

If he is young as well, I am not going to call him a loser but a guy who hasn't grown up yet. Most boys don't grow up until mid 20's and even then, they still need some work.

Their priorities at this stage is hanging out with their mates. And with your situation, he probably isn't used to the fact that he has a baby on the way and he may feel that he's lost his freedom. He is young afterall and it must be a shock to the system to know that he's going to have a baby and be tied down. Both of you probably didn't expect something like this to happen at this stage in your lives.

Look, not trying to defend his actions but there is so much growing up to do and it must be so tough on both of you.

When you call him while he's at his mates, and call his mates even, he may be backlashing by coming in late. He may be embarrassed or get angry.

Stop calling him when he's out and see what occurs. The one thing men and boys hate is nagging. I hate to be nagged at.

I also think that you should spend more time with your friends and see how he likes it.

And, I think some serious talking should occur between both of you.

Mid 20s? My OH is 24 and acts like I did when I was 12..

As I said, "Most" men. And even added, even then they need work.