Little Monkey

We have 3 children, all boys ages 9, 6 and 4 yrs and due our baby girl on 12 July. I have been asking him to move some heavy boxes for me for the last few months so I can get our bedroom sorted for when baby comes, and I am still waiting.

The whole house needs to be re-decorated due to just being rewired and flooded and now the boiler is broken so needs replacing too, but trying to get OH to do anything around the house is proving to be very difficult. He even said I should ask my mum to help me clean and re-decorate as they are womens jobs.

Fair enough he works shifts but when hes at home especially on his days off, he just complains because I have asked him to do something, even if I ask him to look after the kids while I go to the shop. The only thing he wants to do is work on his cars.

I am really stressed that the house wont be ready before the baby comes, and it doesnt help I have a higher chance of going into premature labour again.

When I asked him what he thought cleaning the house means he said "washing the dishes and putting the rubbish in the bin, what else is there to do?"

I have tried many times to talk to him when the kids are in bed or my mum has them for the day but he doesnt listen. He just changes the subject, usually to involve the cars (hes the local branch co-ordinator of a national car club). He will drop everything for the club or his mates but when I ask him to do one thing he wont do it at all.

Am I wrong to think he is lazy and just doesnt seem to care. I am just so sick of having to do every little thing myself when he won't do anything to help. Even our 6 year old has told him he is lazy. Please dont say its just my hormones, as hes like this all the time not just since I got pregnant.

xXhayleyXx

I know exactly how u feel hun. My ex was exactly the same all he gave a damn about was his car and his car clubs. If he wasnt fiddling with his car,his mates cars he would be sat on the car club forums or searching ebay for his next project to hell with the fact i needed help with the 3 kids and day to day things. Hope things improve soon just wanted to send u some hugs xx

vicky

Linzi

Don't get me started hun lol

My OH is brilliant with most things but he doesn't actually realise how much i do. Its really hard at the mo for me to do anything, but Im trying my best to keep the place clean and get into a routine for when the baby is here.

The worst thing is he just doesn't realise. He's not horrible about it or anything, he just doesn't understand that shaving and not getting rid of the hair isn't ok, and that things need dusted and cleaning apart from the kitchen.

But I dont like nagging him, so i get on with it. im my own worst enemy really.

Have a serious word with your OH, thats the only thing I can suggest. I hope it doesn't get too stressful for you. I can't imagine feeling like this, keeping the house up, keeping my job AND having 3 young boys. You sound like superwoman!

xxx

Wobbles

OMG!!!!!!! SLAP SLAP SLAP!! My OH says that in jest and hes a lazy bugger but if he don't want to do the DIY and decorating I know he'd pay someone (lol) and the housework is NOT just soley your job! Thats ignorance towards you in my opinion!
They just don't bloody get it do they. My OH sometimes thinks I do f all but I know he knows different Some men are ignorant to it though and believe in womans job & that its a piece of piss!

TBH I just can't comment more on the rest of your post!

Thats just awful & the risk thats involved too well I think its unforgiveable but I will have to hush as he is your OH!

to you though!