Hiya I was just wondering if someone could help me pleasd....

well i moved into my bfs due to my mum kicking me out and at the start he went out about once or twice a week tops and left me at his. Everyday we spent together and i really was nice.

Then he got a job which he worked at like 12 and somedays got back at 9pm,10pm,11pm. We dident see eachother much and he dident like the job anyways so he quit the job.

This time instead of him spending time with me he were out 24/7 and made excuses up to go out.

Then he got a new job which he has been there for, for like 3 weeks he works 8:30 - 4:30 latest he works till is 6pm. When he gets back from work he f**ks off out till like 12 at nite. I got sick of it so i spoke to him about it and from then on we spend time together.

Now its changed he f****d of out on monday and dident come back till 12:20 at night and yesterday his mate rang up but ian wasent in because he was still at work so i answered it and his mater was like he is getting his motorbike today aint he i was like yea and he woz like he will be out on that all night i was like no he said he ganna spend tonight with me.

Anyway he got back from work rushed on my pc to sort his insurance out and then said im goin out to put petrol in it and then go for a quick drive he went out at 6-7pm dident come back till 10-11pm i rang him up he wasent driving he wer at his m8s house.

Last night it was about 12 when he come to bed i snuggled up to him as you do and he kept pushing me off and shouting so his mum come in and told us to shut up. He were calling me a slag and a b**** and all the other names and so i moved and just put my head close to his and he shouted again. I goes if you dont like me then why you with me. And he said well F***k off then bye. and then i just went sleep then this morning he got outta bed then come back in put his arms around me for like a second got ready went off out for work and dident say bye. I just rang him and said why are you with me if you never want to spend time with me he just hung up and switched his phone off.

ive tried talking to him what shell i do :'( ??

Sorry hun, I dont know. I know when me and my OH started living together it was very difficult for the first couple of months. Very stressful, but you obviosuly don't need that right now. Is there no where else you can stay for a while?

xxx

Nope my mum changed locks on door.........my dad nd mum split so my dads living in a 1 bedroom bedsit we are ment to be geting a house 2geva and everything :'(

Its probably not what you want to hear but it doesn't sound like he's going to grow up for a while. Maybe when the baby arrives he'll understand, but it's probably difficult to wait that long.

Is there no chance of building some bridges with your mam?

I hope whatever happens it works out for you hun, it does sound like a very difficult situation.

xxx

I would say you need to play him at his own game sometimes thats the only way....do it to him and see how he likes it xxx

Not really sure what to say hon and it truly sounds like you are in a bind. Doesn't his parents see what is happening? They must if you live in the same house. Do you talk to them about it?

It sounds like a really difficult situation. I'd be looking at moving out if possible, contacting the council or if you've got any friends you can stay with for a while? Maybe just move into a different room in the house if there's space?

Hanging up on you and switching his phone off! That would make my blood boil. I'd get him to sleep on the sofa.

Hope things get better for you

sounds like hes got alot of growing up to do. tell him how u feel or try talking to his mum? Me and my boyf argue when we have spent alot of time together and he has a phase every now n thn of fucking off out evry night but it gives us space but if he was doing it all the time and talking to me like that he would get told lol

what a dick, i would NOT put up with that. Even if hubby vanished once, he would be dead from me. I dont mind him going out, but I gotta know a rough time of when he will be back. You gotta be more stern with him. You can do better babe xx