You may remember my thred from a couple of days ago about OH going to the pub and I didn't feel welcome even though I really wanted to go.

In the end I let him go alone as him and his friends clearly didn't want me there. He came home at 4.30am totally wasted after having spent all of this weeks tips which I usually use to do the food shopping. I didn't mind though as he was so happy & I figured it is fine if it's just once in a while.

Of course the next day (Our only proper day off work) he was hung over and didn't get up till 3.30pm, when he had to go to the office for about half an hour & then do a bit of planning with me for a function at work on Wednesday and by 6pm he was asleep on the sofa again. So by this point I knew I wasn't getting the meal he told me he'd cook so we could spend some quality time together.

I woke him up at 9pm and asked him if he wanted to go to the pub with me (since it's something I really like doing too & was a bit miffed I wasn't able to the night before). He realised he'd been a bit of an arse by sleeping through most of our day off and being totally out of it due to his hangover. Also he didn't have any money left as he'd spent it all the night before and wasn't any longer in the mood for alcohol but said we could go if I wanted to. I told him I didn't mind him being like this once in a while as long as it isn't too often. He agreed so I let him off the hook and said we would stay in.

Then today he is immediatly telling me how next week he's going to the pub with his mate again & how this time he's making them play proper poker. He said he won't drink so much this time but I know that won't happen. We only have 1 full day off per week & once again it will be wasted. When exactly am I going to get the chance to make the most of our last few weeks together as just the 2 of us?! I think it's time for some silent treatment. He keeps telling me how his friends wife puts up with it and his friend goes more than once a week. His friend doesn't work so much though and I'm not married to him! If he thinks he's getting away with it when LO gets here, he has another thing coming.

big hugs

Tell him that hun. Thats the only thing you can do

*hugs* Hope you feel better.

xxx

Hope you and he can have a nice long talk. He needs to understand that you are not his friends wife, you are your own person. He really can't know what their situation really is, nor can he really know if it really doesn't affect their relationship at all.

Thanks. Just had to get that out of my system!!

My OH did that to me as well a few weeks before our son was born. I told him I'd had eight months of not drinking, so he could put up with one month (even though it was over Xmas). I asked him what he expected me to do if the baby decided to come early and I needed to get to the hospital - he'd be no good after a few pints, and did he really want to miss this special experience as he was drunk?

I think OH's need to remember that although doctors give you a due date, babies rarely arrive on that date. Mums and dads need to be prepared that it could be any day from at leas 36 weeks (when you are considered full term!). So he should make sure he's in the right condition from now to look after you if the time comes!

Also, as you said you need to enjoy the limited time you now have together on your own - you will get barely five minutes once the new one arrives - and then all you'll want is five minutes on your own! Make sure you enjoy your time before the LO arrives. ]

Anyway best of luck, and I hope the OH look after you - although I know it can feel like with men!

haha ive already laid the law down....
I am keeping a check on the nights he goes out and gets drunk and has "quality time" (oh yes how gay!!!!!) with his friends as once this baby is born i shall get it settled into a routine and start going out myself leaving him sitting in with the baby and not allowing him a drink as its dangerous to drink around an infant... dont think i would carry out the threat but hey he doesnt know this and its curbed the crazy amount of times he takes his friends up on their offers of a pint
also ive told him that if he attempts to go out drinking after i am 35 weeks and he misses the birth or turns up drunk he will not be given the honour of his surname on the childs birth certificate.... thats gave him a kick up the arse and something to think about.

men can really drive you mad sometimes. I hope you feel better soon.
Few days ago my OH came home from work and said he's going back to his friend's office ( 2 minutes away ) for a couple of drinks because his friend;s brother came for a visit. I asked what time he's going, he said in 20min. and then he waited and waited, so i asked if he can drive me to get some food first. .............
So maybe over an hour later he said he's going. I said you wouldn;t be that long then because there were many thing to do in the house as his mom was coming the next day and he had to pick her up from the airport at 9am. and he will have to leave at 8am. He said he can take care of that in the morning. So he said he will be late because they changed the plan. ( he told me the minute he was leaving the house ) They will meet up in different place which is quite a drive after some drinks. Only a few beers turned out he's home at 6am. in the morning !!! i was awake at 4am. worrying if he's alright ( i was up every hour that night checking if he's home )
then he went to sleep and left me do the rest of house work. i tried to wake him up many times but he got up at 7:50am. and just left to the airport.
Well done !