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Newt · Apr 27th, 2008, 16:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Anja

....but we have had talks, apologies, tears and hugs!

I am so glad you finally got to talk. it sounds like you worked through a lot of emotions.
Let hope this is the road to recovery

melbo · Apr 27th, 2008, 19:26 PM

oh no no nooo! This would never do.. I would kick his ass!

sorry honey, I have no real advice. I would just kick his ass.. dont follow my bad advice please.

edit- I read that you sorted it babe and im so glad

xxx

ella170 · Apr 27th, 2008, 20:11 PM

im really sorry u have to go through this
as easy as it sounds, ur not going to forget about it and it would probably make any woman paranoid for a long time after. i have a different situation with my bf, involving another girl (although the fact that she looks like a fat version of boy george really helps to put my mind at ease) and ive now ended it with him 3 times. im back with him now but im still very paranoid about everything he does and i check his phone (i never used to feel the need to do this) at every oppurtunity i get. i dont know what i would have done though if i hadnt have got a proper explanation from him. i do think that if u dont get him to talk about it and do what he wants and just leave it, u are going to have hundreds of unanswered questions in ur head, and trust me, they dont go away, they only get bigger. good luck, i really hope things sort out for u xx

anita665 · Apr 28th, 2008, 08:32 AM

I personally would find this very hard to deal with too & the fact that he's not being considerate to your feelings at all by refusing to talk to you about it. I don't have any good advice for your situation but I really feel for you.

Linzi · Apr 28th, 2008, 11:53 AM

Its great that you sorted it.

My best friend went through something similar with her ex, but he was a horrible man. He was really malicious about the whole thing. He arranged to meet this girl he's met on MSN somewhere so they could go to a hotel and have sex... not knowing it was his girlfriend... she made him book a really expensive hotel and buy a few expensive 'presents' and then went to the place to meet this girl. Then his girlfriend showed up. His face was an absolute picture, it was so funny.

They aren't all like that though

lol

xxx

darkheaven77 · Apr 28th, 2008, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Anja

I have just caught my husband flirting with a woman on the net. some random woman he met through facebook. He was telling her how beautiful she was, what an amazing body etc etc. they talked about a place to go where they could 'chat' properly ie messenger and she talked about sending him naked or more explicit photos of her. I knew he was hiding things because he changed his passwords and logged off from facebook every time he left the pc and shut down screens when i entered the room. he denied this totally but if his behavious was not so radically different I would not have suspected he was up to no good. I am really really upset by this and very angry. I am 8 weeks pregnant. he has told me I am over reacting and it was just harmless flirting. He will not discuss it any further and I am just supposed to forget it. I mentioned that a man seems to be more likely to have an affair when she is pregnant...he agreed saying its because men were men. I have asked to to go to a different room this evening simply because i cant stop crying. I want to talk about it. I wanted to go through the emails to explain to him how they all made me feel but he has deleted them after I told him i wanted to go through them with me. He just wont discuss it at all.
Am I being unreasonable for being so upset. should I just forget and accept it. If I should....I dont know if I am able. I dont know what to do ....I feel absolutely mortified and betrayed. As he has said...it is hardly infedelity....but i feel it almost is....we have waited so long for this baby and been through alot to get it (vasectomy reversal).
Can someone please advise
Sorry this is so long....and probably incoherent!!

if hhe is being naughty u can save his convos on msn if u ever want to know what hes been talking about i did with my cheating ex coz he just didnt know what truth was

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