Uvlollypop

big hugs i hope it blows over soon

toriaaaaTRASH

It will blow over, it always does.

I made that sound abit one sided last night, which it wasn't really.

I can explain abit better now I'm not mad. Ughh.. Basically it started when I told him I wanted to speak to him about labour because there was no use us waiting untill it happens and then having an argument at the time. The last thing I want when I'm in labour is someone making me angry (the whole reason I barely want him there as it is, he always says the wrong thing). I know it takes him so long to understand anything and the reason he said use nothing then is because I was telling him the side effects of the pain relief available. I didn't feel like "don't use any," was a very constructive thing to say and maybe I did get abit hormonal about it. But seriously, on what planet would anyone tell a pregnant person not to use pain relief? I simply explained what each one does, and knowing I have to use them inspite of that, I was hoping he'd help me decide and make things abit easier. Boy was I wrong.

Uvlollypop

im sorry he wasnt supportive of you hun, your still going to have your mum there right? itll be alright on the night so they say, hopefully he will wake up and smell the coffee soon!

good luck x

toriaaaaTRASH

Yeah my mum will be there. I'm sure when it comes down to it he will be to. Meh, not gonna stress out about it. Not like I can put it off haha

clairebear

sorry hun hopefully he will come round any way hows having the baby who has to go through labour xx

doctordeesmrs

luckyme225

sorry hes being a butt!

ladymilly

hope your ok hun

Alchemist

lol, my DH is the same. I cant get his opinion on anything (especially related to pregnancy and childborth) and I have realised in my old age, not to ask him to venture too much out of his comfort zone. speak to your friends, women famility memebers, doctor, midwife etc and to us about these things. men are generally not equipped to think the way we do (unless hes one of those rare men who actually read the books you ask him to). its one of the reasons i wont want my DH in the room when i deliver (even though i wont tell him that and i think at the time he will be gratefull) but i will need his support during the long hours of labour. firstly, he probably feels out of control of the whole pregnancy thing and cant make decisions when he feels like that and also he wont want to see me go through pain (and i am sure your man will feel the exact same on the day). you are probably asking him to reach a bit out of his orbit (giving him odd facts will make him grasp at them and say "hmm, pick one????" and believe me they are not worrying about pushing out the baby sans medication in quite the same way you are).

So, kiss him and say you appreciate his help with the decision but you have talked to doctor, friends etc and then tell him your decision. chances are he will be happy with whatever you say as long as you are confident and secure etc.

toriaaaaTRASH

Normally, I can handle his inability to grasp anything woman-related but with these added hormones the fact anything I try to explain to him goes straight over his head just.. gets right on my nerves. I can't deal with the fact I have to explain everything 100 times and then he still complains he doesn't get it and it's my fault for not explaining it properly, so I gave up trying to tell him things about pregnancy in the hope that'd help. I just needed someone to talk to that night and I guess I picked the wrong person.

We'll be alright, we always are.