My OH is the most caring and fantastic man. He loves to shop and has been buying almost all of the baby things and takes an active interest in my pregnancy. He has even signed up to get weekly bulletins by email from Emma's Diary delivered and has been sending off for all kinds of children's catalogues, etc. We have a good life and are very much in love. It is like we were made for each other.

We had an active social life before I became pregnant. I was doing photography for a rock magazine, bands and promotions alongside my day job and he was doing reviews and band interviews for the magazine. We also went out at least every other weekend and had a decent circle of friends. We went out twice since I became pregnant.

As I've written elsewhere, I was told I could never have children without IVF and my OH accepted that we would never be parents until by some miracle, I got pregnant. There have been some ups and downs during my pregnancy including three falls at work, twice on my bump. One just happened a week ago and I am now working from home until I leave work on 13 May. In fact, after reading about Snowball's terrible tragedy, I stuck to my guns with my job and insist they allow me to work from home and then went to my GP for a letter to back it up. Every time my fiance sees our LO on a scan, he cries and holds my hand for comfort. I know he loves me and our son very much.

So, what is the problem? He has made no effort at all to remain in contact with his friends. I am in contact with most of them since we run in the same circle. In fact, I emailed the girlfriend of his closest friend about meeting up, but we decided to let the boys do the arrangements. I said to my fiance to make the arrangements and he never did.

He told me that he just wants to be home with me and he is worried about something going wrong when I give birth or even beforehand. And he cannot relax until our son is "out the other side". His dad died in November 2006 and we just lost his grandmother this past February. He said he cannot handle another loss and does not know what he will do if something happens to our son. I told him that he still should keep in contact with friends because it is good to have a support network. But, he wishes to do it once the baby is born.

I know he will not handle the birth too well once he sees me in pain. So, his mother will be coming there, as well. In fact, I asked her to be there. We get along very well and I am happy she is coming.

Does anyone have advice? Or been in a similar situation?

I have no advice im afraid but i think that you should relax and view this as a temporary situation, it seems like he has been through a lot lately and he wants you and the baby to be his sole priority.
I understand he needs to have a good support network and if they are true friends then they will understand and be there for him when he needs them, in his own time. He may realise in a couple of weeks that it would be nice to talk things through with one of his friends, you never know.
Sorry if im not making any sense im tired lol
I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and a happy healthy bubba
x

Thanks! I know these friends will be there and do not want him to rebuff them. He has not been maintaining contact with them for several months, even before we lost his grandmother. But, I think you are right that he has been through a lot lately and wishes to make me and our LO his priority. Thanks and hope you get some rest!