Ok...i cant take much more of this!! Sorry this may be a long rant but here goes..

Once a week my OH's best friend comes over and stays the night which i dont mind..hes a lovely guy and theyve been friends since they where kids and i know how important it is for my OH to spend time with his friends- I dont have a problem with that. However i find what they do when there together in our home very immature! They sit there all day on the xbox...which means i've gotta look after Oliver by myself and run around all day after them 2, totally bored! What makes it worse is that his friend brings his TV round cus they play live on xbox and aparently need to TV'S so they can both be signed in online..so they rearrange all our furniture in the lounge and we have 2 TV's!! They play allday then at 10pm they decide to go out and dont come back til 3am...the next day OH is grumpy cus he's tired and usually spends the day in bed cus he feels sick, leaving me to look after Oli alone again! Basically they treat the place like a batchelor pad. Its like living back with students again when i was at uni as i lived with guys...or worse still like living with my 17year old brother! Whenever i say anything though OH goes arsy and thinks i'm making a big deal out of nothing and that i dont want him to see his mates or have a life! He can go over to his mates house instead but his mate lives in leicster and i dont like OH spendin the night in another town,leavin me alone with baby all weekend..plus lately ive not been well passing out alot so dont feel comfortable being left alone!

Am i being unreasonable? I cant see many women putting up with it! I want him to see his friend of course but cant they do more 'mature' things? lol. I dunno. Just seems really sad and childlike. Maybe its just me.I just find it wierd. I know alotta blokes like there computor games thse days, fair enough but do they have to rearrange me furniture and sit there alllll day...and if i'm busy and Oliver cries he shouts that he cant see to him cus he's busy playin xbox with Dan!!! He gets in such a strop if he cant see his mate its unreal..makes me feel that his family are second best sometimes. x

To be honest I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Yes I do think that it is important for both men and women to keep up their friendships after a baby is born, but you also have to give some things up. I'd be understanding if it was one day a month or so but 2 days out of every week that he's not helping you out because of this..........I'd go through the roof if Stan did that to me

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all that would drive me nuts. Do you have a friend you could get to come round for the day & do really girlie stuff with & give him a taste of his own medicine. Childish I know but bar that I think he needs a good kick up the butt!!

The thing is my friends all live miles away so i rarely see them..when i do it always seems to be when OH is at work so when they come over i have Oliver, which doesnt bother me! Yet my OH gets soooo anoyed if one of his friends round and he has to look after Oliver..he says its not fair on his friend!! Errm excuse me but he's a friend i'm sure he would understand!! I just want abreak...i know its not my OH's faultt i dont have any friends nearby but...i duno perhaps im just jelous he still has a social life and i dont lol. I just feel like im being made a fool of and that nothin i do gets noticed. Dont feel like i get noticed anymore. Feel like i'm Oli's mummy and thats all he sees me as just lately. x

No not unreasonable. There is no way I would ever put up with that.
You are parents now, it's time he realised this, things can't be like they were when he was a student...

I think you're being more than reasonable!

Sorry to be so forward, but if he wants to have his friend round, then they should both respect you and your home.

Maybe you could invite some girlie friends around and give him a run for his money!

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all! It drives me insane that i have to wait for my OH to finish a level on a game before we can go out anyway. Like his life depends on it. I sure to god hope hes not playing xbox when i go into labour or i'll be made to wait.

I think you should put your foot down and make a compromise with him. Playing on xbox with his mate is one thing but making such a big deal out of it and not looking after you. He can't just hide from his responsibilities.

MEN! Unfortunately I can see myself having the same problem. That's why I refuse to live with him lol

oh my gosh sounds soo much lik my OH! He wont go out or even let me talk to him if hes on that damn thing til hes finished the level! like its only a bloody game!! grrrrr x

No bloody way are you being unreasonable... Infact... I just wouldnt have it... Not bringing an extra TV and stuff. If they want to play online together then they can do so whilst his friend is at his OWN house...

If that was me i'd one day be tempted to turn the trip switch, haha. I already whinge at Chris for constatnly watching Sky Sports News so much... He just comes in on away it goes reapting the sae old bollocks it repeated an hour ago.

I really feel sorry for you..

x