Well...looks like we're done.....

I'm 6mth pregnant and so confused regarding my relationship with the father. We didn't plan the pregnancy and we not even in a committed relationship when we got pregnant. I had actually broke things off between him and I then found out I was pregnant. After telling himthe news and that I was going to keep the baby and didn't need anything from him. That I didn't expect to have a relationship with him just b/c I was pregnant.

He said that he was so happy and wanted to have a family with me and..and..and..

So we were together. He talked about having more later, buying a house together and even told me he loved me just a few wks ago. Then he started acting like an ass-standing me up, not coming around, not even calling...

I finally told him that I don't deal with that shit anymore and than he was an ass. I broke it off...which is what he wanted me to do, I'm sure.

But now I'm in this shitty situation...I do care about him and would like us to be a couple. I just can't believe that he changed him mind so quickly. Going from "Ilove you more anf more everyday" to an asshole??!! I just don't get it.

I've told him that and all he said is that he's not ready for a relationship...well then why did you lay it on so damn thick just last week then?

I feel like such a fool...I haven't told many that we are broken up- as I don't want the pity look from anyone-you know?!

So what to do now? I'm so stressed....just want to feel happy about the future but all I can think about is all the difficulties that lie ahead...trying to raise a child without a partner. And seriously how will he be as a dad?!...sooo worried...

first of all dont stress. If he really wants to be a Dad, he will come around. Im sure he just has nervous feet. But men at time are way more hormonal then us girls. But if he decides to run and hind, well its his loss and you and your baby will be better off with out. I just hope that in the end he will make the right choice.

Wishing you all the best!

1sttimemom, I'm in the same boat as you. I'd only been with the father for a couple of months before I found out I was about a month gone. At first he was really happy, telling me how much he was looking forward to it and loved me and such.

Now we're not together, he changes his mind all the time as to whether he's happy us being friends and parents to not wanting to know. So I also have to think about being a single parent, finding somewhere to live and finding a way to afford to keep the baby and me. I know he'll be as good a dad as he can but I am also worried when he goes through his change in mood that he's going to go through patches of not wanting to see baby and messing me around.

All I know is at the end of the day my baby is the most important thing and one way or another things will work out. I know it's not much help but that's the way I see it. If you need to chat PM me.

xx