Simon'sMum

Hi all!

I'll try to make this a short story as I really need advice...

I've been away from work for 1 year now. My departure was unexpected and I made everything as smooth as possible for everyone when I left. I did alot of work to prepare the one who took my place so that he/she knew how to take over. I prepared material, offered my support, made myself available at any time and even attended meetings where my presence was important for things to shift over a period of time.

Since I'm at home, a collegue has slipped in the conversation how one boss was mad at me because of not being available for an entire meeting one time though I had told his superior about an obligation of mine. I even said I could make time another day!!! Last week, this same collegue told me that this superior was also mad at me for having to leave work unexpectedly when i was 3 months pregnant. She told her (also preggo) that if she planned on doing the same thing she shouldn't do it in her back. But I NEVER did that! My doctor took me out of the workplace for my baby's safety!!! I told my boss the very next day and even stayed 1 month more to make the transition easier, putting my health and baby at risk for them...

What is upsetting is that my boss was told by another collegue that I did it behind her back whcih I wonder where she got it from... just pure invention, I tell you.

I'm really hurt and disappointed. I don't like being used as an example to other expecting moms for something soooo untrue. I wake up at night thinking of this. I'm sad, mad, and feeling betrayed.

Should I communicate with my bosses to straighten out things? All I really want to do is let them know how I always did everything with honesty and that I did my best through those moments. Should I? I don't want to scream or anything, just tell them how they've got it wrong. Should I write a letter maybe? I feel like it will be very hard to return to work knowing they think of me this way... I'm considering changing job now more than ever. Please help me...

hypnorm

I would go and speak to them face to face.. its very easy for people to fob off a letter.

BurtonBaby

I would definitely go talk to them. I have a somewhat similar situation, I was taken off work at 8 weeks, and my job was SO mad about it. But if they had made things easier, I might have been able to stay part time. They actually ended up terminating me, while on disability, (which I'm appealing), but it was very hard and hurtful for me to go through this. I was a loyal employee like you were, and tried to make things easy for them when I left. I have been thinking of going and talking to my old direct supervisor, since I'm seeking job reinstatement in my appeal, but it's kinda intimidating. But just remember that you did nothing wrong, and try to talk things out now, so that you will be comfortable going back to work there when your done with your mat leave. Good luck hun!

vicky

yer i would go talk to them hun, go sort it out face to face, if you write a letter they might not take it the way you mean. Get it sorted right out hun.

Simon'sMum

Thanks girls. I'm starting to wonder if it's all going to be worth it considering it's still going to put me through lots of stress and strong mixed feelings. OH says I should do it if I decide to return to that job, which I'm unsure of. He thinks I should let it be if I'm going to work elsewhere... After reading your advice, I know that face to face will be the way if I do it. I still have to think about what I'll do in the end. Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my post!!!