genkigemini

Alright, I need to vent.

I am 27 and DH is 36. My female best friend in the world is 22 and my other two close male friends are 18 and 26. I am very loud and so are my friends but in general, I am not as crazy obnoxious as my friends because I am just older and realize that others don't really need to hear every dirty joke every created.

Anyway... DH doesn't hang out with them much because his patience gets really tried. I mean he is great when we are together but enough is enough and I get that. We have been together long enough for me to know what is what and I respect that.

Okay... here is the story. I told my friends (I call them my "garden") that I wanted the 5 of us to get together tonight to hang out. (This was one week ago.) I made it AS CLEAR AS FREAKING POSSIBLE that it was only to be us or Jack was not coming. (Jack = DH) Then, my bff calls and says, lets go swing dancing and bring one other friend. I talk to DH and he agrees. Then a couple of days later, bff calls again and says her sister is coming too. Okayyyyyyyyyyy... we get along so I agree.

Now today, she and my "son" (the 18 year old) come to work and say, "We invited this other guy Andrew to hang out because he has been hitting on my sister and it is cute. WTF!!!!!!

Okay... so the party of 5 is now 8 and the people we picked up are all more annoying kids... Hell no! Now, I am off to pick up hubby from work in 10 minutes and I am sure that he is going to refuse to go and I will not blame him at all. If he doesn't go, I am going to bail too because this is bullshit. This was my plan to hang out so why do they need to invite everyone else.

I get that I am the boring married chick who doesn't hang out with them as often but come on. ONE DAMN NIGHT I ask for just our group and they just crap on it. (Honestly, if Jack and I flake out, the 26 year old friend will probably do the same. I am just so irked at my bff right now.)

Sorry. I know this post may sound petty but I had to get it off my chest somewhere that she could not see.

Samo

aww i am sorry . your friends probably think nothing of it as the tag-alongs are likely around their age group. I'm sure your DH (and maybe even you!) would just get that feeling like you're "babysitters" or chaperons in the group. The dancing sounds like it would be such fun, sorry the group situation has become such crap . Maybe if you talk with your BFF and tell her how you and DH feel, they will understand...afterall, it was your idea to invite your friends for a nice night out. If not this time, maybe schedule it again some other time, after you talk with them and they (hopefully) understand you just want it to be you and the "garden".

genkigemini

Thanks so much honey. My BFF did bail on the dance party to hang out with me but my "son" is still going dancing. So, DH, Nana and I will go out. YAY!!!