Tilly

I feel like im going mad where im living with Sonny's family. Everyone works (bar boyfriends brothers girlfriend, who does the odd bit of cleaning with her mum I think) so the house is left in a shit everyday where no one has bothered to load the dishwasher or anything. If things aren't clean, boyfriends mum isn't happy, so I feel forced into doing it almost.. plus the fact that I need the kitchen clean to prepare Bethanie's meals. I could sit here all day explaining the different selfish actions of people in this house, but I will just get myself mad and piss you all off waffling lol. I feel like a maid and if I make an effort it goes completely unnoticed and unappreciated - not that I expect a blue peter badge, but helping keep things clean when i've worked my ass off for hours wouldn't go a miss.

Just after a bit of advice, how can I stay calm.. id love to go back and live at my mums BUT Sonny doesn't want to leave his job and I don't really want to be back and forth unsettling Bethanie - leaving without Sonny isn't an option. Sonny owes his mum money at the min, so moving out isn't possible.. we're on the council waiting list, do you think we're better off renting a 1 bedroom place for the timebeing??

Help, I can't talk to anyone about this

yumumleelou

its the same here for me, my father is the worlds biggest slob, along with my otherhalf. i am constantly washing there clothes and hoovering the house dusting and tidying, im having a break right now. luckily my baby doesnt havent to see the mess.
but trying to keep a house up together with people going behind you making a mess where you just cleaned really doesnt help matters does it! x x
especially in my situation where we have three cats who sit on everything, so everything gets hairy, and needs hoovering but thank god they know not to go into the bedrooms. lol and three dogs who live outside but dad brings in all the hair on his work clothes grrrrrr.
dad brought me a new dyson last night so it makes the jobs a tad easier but lets face it it would be lovely to have a hand every now and again.
i think you need to have a family meeting and do a rotary that is what im gonna do when i move out because i barely have any time to poo, let alone look after a baby and i know deep down i wont cope without more help from the otherhalf, granted he does a fair bit on the weekends.
i feel like a bitch for ranting but its driving me crazy because as soon as one room is tidy another needs doing. damn men eh!
tell the lazy girl to get off her ass and give you a hand. explain that she should be acting her age! lol

Tilly

Thanks for your comments, not saying you have less right to be annoyed.. but if it was my family id not mind so much, when it's not your house and your family it's so annoying, you can't say much. I have spoken out a few times and it has caused 1 argument with boyfriends brother and me (he does nothing and doesn't think he has to, because it's his home.. im constantly cleaning up after his lazy ass). His girlfriend is pregnant, not an excuse though as I was cleaning right up until I bloody gave birth.
I swear people think that if you stay at home with a baby you do nothing all day, it's as if because they have a job they have more right not to do anything?

I feel so negative recently as this place is getting me down.

elles28

You deserve a medal for putting up with that crap...I moan constantly & I am only clearing up after my OH & 2 kidz & I am a SAHM so it is all I have to do ...It still pisses me off so I think you should consider the 1 bedroom thing as at least it will save your sanity even for a bit..

Jules

It would drive me insane living with my OH's family, don't get me wrong i get on with them but a few hours is fine, full time is a definate no.

It winds me up about cleaning, i go mad at my OH sometimes, as why can't they just put their own plates into the dishwasher after meals instead of putting it in the sink? or leaving rubbish on the side when the bins right there! Another thing i hate is my OH throws his socks in any corner of any room instead of putting them in the washer! And i walk round collecting them. lol

If you want to go live back at your mums then surely your OH should consider it? If not i would consider renting, your not there maid.

Iwantone!!!

do u all eat at the same time being on how u feel confidenece wise i would say just to let you all knwo why u have been working i have too as u can see the kitchen is nice and tidy and x,y,z also has been done and i would appreciate if you could do your little bit to help me i know it anit ny house but i do have to look after Beth im not here just to clean the house so why dont we do a rota ? thta will put a spanner in the works but at least it will make them realise what u do for them good luck xxx

sonny

can you try something and just stop doing it altogether?..or just tidy/clean after yourself for a while then they might realise that the mess is theirs.....or the mother might get onto them a bit more.
its horrible having to feel like you have to clean up after everyone,i do it all the time and it irritates me when it is basic things people should be doing.
Now the weather is getting better can you take your daughter out for whole days somewhere? at least then you are not in the house looking at what needs doing and also if you are out they cant expect it clean whn they get back.