toriaaaaTRASH

This is years ahead of when this arguement is taking place but it happened and we've broken up over it. He tampers with drugs, occasionally, and I've dealt with that. It's not my place to dictate to anyone whether they should or shouldn't be doing something stupid. However, I asked him what he'd say to her (baby) if she asked about drugs. He said he'd tell her what he found out. I asked him what that was and he said "that they're a fun alternitive to drinking."

WHO SAYS THAT TO THEIR KIDS?!!!

Then he started shouting at me about how I can't have a go at him for having an opinon on drugs. I said I can have a go at him about what he intends to tell our daughter when she's growing up. I don't want her to think drugs are O.K.

anita665

No doubt if it actually came down to it he wouldn't say that and will be really protective over her. He's just not got to that stage yet.

Saying that, both my parents were terrible when it came to drink and drugs and actually encouraged me and gave certain things to me but I decided for myself what I thought to all that. My parents are nothing to go by.

toriaaaaTRASH

Maybe I'm over-reacting because it's so soon, but if he ever told her drugs were O.K. I think I'd kill him.....

anita665

I doubt he'd do that because it's completely irresponsible & you'd have the right to get angry!!

leeanne

We own a roofing company and, unfortunately, many of the workers in that trade have a problem with drugs.

I've asked them what they would say to their kids and was amazed at their reaction. They would tell the kids to come to them as then they know they are getting good stuff instead of stuff that would be bad as in making them sick, etc.

HUH!? WTF!

I have a big problem with drugs and always have.

toriaaaaTRASH

I don't have a problem with people that do drugs, that's their mistake. My problem is with people that think it's O.K. to tell other people drugs have a positive effect, when in reality, if they could quit, they would in a heartbeat!

leeanne

I've known people addicted to speed, meth, crack/cocaine and even marijuana. The money they waste on the stuff, the stealing, etc. just makes me ill.

I grew up seeing alcohol addiction too and the ramifications of it....physical abuse, etc. toward my mom.

I vowed a long time ago I would never date someone who did any such thing.

MarchBaby

I dont blame you for getting mad. I would have. Luckily, my boyfriend is very antidrugs, and even drinking, and has been since I've known him. I've only got drunk a few times in my life, but nothing really bad. I've never even tried drugs.
My OH's family takes lots of prescription drugs, but they do other things wiht them as well and my OH's mothers "boyfriend" who lives wiht us does drugs. I dont want my child around him at all. I really dont want my child around the prescription drugs, but they have to take them. So, as long as there is never anything else going on wiht them that is seen/heard by my LO I'm not going to worry about it.
I would never let my child around someone who told them drugs were okay. Or even someone who was talking about doing drugs around them. I know I wont be able to protect him forever but I will for as long as I possibly can.
As others said, once she is born I think he will view it differently. He will probably want to protect her from everything and anything he can, as those parental instincts kick in. good luck!

Iwantone!!!

aaww hunni u sure he was not joking and messing with ya head its out of order my fella used to do the odd pill as he hate the feeling of being drunk and he has grown out of it i doubt he would want his daughter to take the drugs xxxx

toriaaaaTRASH

He wasn't joking atall