Linzi

I think maybe when the baby comes and he realises he actually has to be a dad he probably will change his mind. The last thing any father (or parent for that matter) is for their kids to get hurt. And everyone knows that thats what drugs can do.

Ive dabbled, and equally my partner asked me not to mention it in front of Seth. As if Id do that?! Im hardly proud of it.

I hope he grows up for you! lol I bet when his little girl arrives he'll do a complete turn around.

xxx

coccyx

Sounds a loser. Not suprised you were angry

BurtonBaby

It honestly sounds like he needs to grow up hun. That is an answer I would expect from like my little sisters boyfriend who is a pothead. And isn't serious about anything.... Me and DH used to drink a little before we got pregnant, and in high school we tried weed, but didn't like it. But my older brother has had a drug problem for a long time. He steals, lies, does whatever he can to get drugs, and has even gone to jail because of his addiction. I told him when I found out I was pregnant, that if he is going to be continuing his lifestyle, that he wont be allowed my daughter. He's trying to change, because I think that hit home, but I will NEVER allow anyone to expose my daughter to the terrible things in life. Like Marchbaby said, we cant protect them forever, but will as long as we can. Your OH sounds like he really needs to grow up, get serious and think about the fact that in a couple months, your going to have a little daughter here. Children know nothing when they are born, they are blank canvases and we have to teach them everything. I'm sure you both would want your daughter to have a more appropriate view on drugs than that they are fun. Tell him to grow up, or eff off. Good luck hun, you seem to have lots of problems with him.

polo_princess

Tell him he's entitled to his small minded opinion and how would he feel if god forbid your daughter became a crack addict and was holed up in rehab on the verge of dying? "dad said it was ok to do it!"

Jesus, i know most of us have dabbled with drugs in our younger days, but how many of us if we went and asked our parents would get the response that your fella gave

lorrilou

Im sure his attitude will change if that situation arises.

My oh smokes cannabis, and although i aint got a problem with it i know he would not encourage either of our kids to do it. He's been smoking it since he was 13 (29 now) and his parents never had a problem with it, which i think is f-in disgusting!!!!

ElliesMum

So would i!!!

I would have gone mad too.

Phexia

Oh my, I understand that you're upset. Me and my OH are recovering addicts, I've been sober almost 8 years and he's been sober for 7 years. It makes me angry just reading that anyone would tell a child that drugs are ok. I mean, some people dabble with them and then "grow out of it" or don't seem to have a problem with it, but you NEVER KNOW what will happen! Me and OH both came from very normal families, no addiction, alcoholism, abuse or anything like that so we thought "I can try drugs, nothing's gonna happen" and we both got horribly addicted and almost killed ourselves.

It's really dangerous to let someone believe that he can experiment with this stuff and be ok because anything can happen. If anyone ever tells my kids something like that I'm gonna kick his ass for sure

nikky0907

I competly understand you.I'd kill him too...
Toria,this guy sounds very immature.You sound to me like a responsible girl,ready to have a baby,but him...not so much.

I grew up and still live in a drug-free environment.There are NO drugs in my town and I've never taken any so I can't really be the person to say this but he should stop tempering with drugs once your baby is born.That is not safe or responsible.He should start acting like a parent...And if what he said was a joke,I don't find it very funny,and if it wasn't...I can only pray that he'll turn around...xxx