Carlyanne15

pardon the rant but honestly my mother has married what i could call a complete and utta twat!
She remarried @4 yrs ago, She meet him in the Oct, engaged by Dec and tied that knot in the July! Well how wonderful, however once married, they seem to be on a slope of no retuirn, she is forever in tears and coming to both Myself and my brother! Which is fine we are her family and that is what we are there for, thou one would assume its usually the mother there for their kiddies?!?!?!?

Any hoo, basically he rund is own company and his never forth coming with info!!! And that when they bought their new house mum pilled all her CASH into the house! He got a interest only mortgage for the remainder, which isnt much but its still a mortgage and she has over paid 3rd's of the house!!!! So when my bro and me have said how comes you didnt keep cash back for yourself and why has he not given info about his finances she goes all quite!!!
In a nutshell my brother and his GF had a baby in Jan, little George is wonderful and my mum decided she wanted to cut her hours she works down to 3days a week (she does 12.30 til 5.30) when she approached her other half he went MANIC
He went mental that they cant afford her to and that my brother had a baby not her and that he should look after it!!! All mum wanted was to help them 2days a week. So since August last year they have had murders, they are apparantly fine until the subject of Money arises

So last week she funds out that her darling OH toke out a 35K bank loan 3 1/2 years ago and thats why he cant afford her to help my Brother or Me for that matter when the time comes.

So as you can imagine he hasnt told her for ages why he has an issue and as you can imagine mums gone totally bonkers. Quite rightly so. She is an emotional reck!!!!
However she has decided that they are a couple and that they should be together.

So here me, totally going nuts as i can see she is a mess emotionally, that they arent getting on, that she cant do anything she wants because of her husband!!!
i've told her that if it was me and stuart in that situation she would tell me to leave him! Which she said she would, but she wont leave her d1ckhead of a husband.
Am i mad for being so cross, has anyone got anything similiar going on.

Sorry for the long old message, hope i havent bored anyone is just i'm getting so frustrated!!!!

C x

Newt

Oh my gosh, she seems to have got herself into some trouble. Poor, poor woman. If she has old values too she will stand by her man as such, but she so does not deserve that sort of treatment.
I hope she comes around soon, for her own sake.
It must be so difficult to watch someone you care about hurting so much and so obviously being taken for a ride.

Gems

Oh hun, im so sorry, its not the same but my dad has been seeing a woman (13 years younger than him and only 10 years older than me) for a year now and they recently moved in together. She is now making him sell his house and put all his money in to a house together, in a process signing all his money over to her, so if anything happens to him i would get not a penny !!
I have told him im worried but he reckons she would see me right !! Yeah right !
Why do parents sometimes act like the children and loose all sense of reasoning ?!?!?
I hope everything sorts its self out Carlyanne xxxx

Iwantone!!!

aaawww what a knob he is the thing she has got to take in to inconsideation even thou he may have taken the loan out in his name only if he has if they have anything joint together and he defaults on any payments it will effect her credit rating too also i think if he has taken out a 35k loan this is more than likely been taken out a loan to run alongside the mortgage a secured loan does he own the house or is the mortgage in both names because u can only get up 25k unsecured which means anyone homeowner or not can have a loan anything more than that means it usually on a mortgage now if the morgage is joint ur mum would of have to sign to agree with the loan now if it in his name only theres no need for her to worry be sh needs to find out where the loan is and who with and to see if it effects her credit file hope this helps PM if u want any questions answer i work for a bank i no a bit

Carlyanne15

UPDATE!!!

They now seem all ok, and that she and him have had a proper talk and that they are now considering selling the house and re buying it joint together i.e down size and get no mortgage or selling and renting (which i said was the better option for them ANYWAY)
Then on saturday we nipped out for Coffee in town, and she then says that they are now Considering moving ................. Wait for it To Nolfork
Which will be 2hours drive away as the house values and stuff is better, ie more for your money!!!
Well thats great but she will be totally alone. she moans now that she doesnt see all that much of me and my brother to now wanting to move away.
I voiced all this the other night, she said she was pleased i did however!!! Martin wants to do this and she thinks his idea will be for the best.

The is totally and utterly in the cloud's and i wish she had never met him now!!!

Oh Iwontone. which bank do you work for?
c x