glamgirl

Ok i just needed someone to share my feelings with, i just had enough of my relationship with my partner. I don`t think its a good pregnancy im experiencing with my partner. As its my 1st time, i will always remember how my pregnancy is and was. Its just that he is there for me maybe but i don`t think he knows how to be nice with me. He always expects me to do everything even though im pregnant, from cooking to cleaning. He works a lot and we meet just nite time. All the pregnancy experience i go through i just enjoy it on my own. I don`t have no one in this country, all my family are abroad. And my friends doesnt really talk to me as they live far away and they not happy at the fact that im keeping my baby. i feel so emotional sometimes, that i just cry on my own. my pregnancy wasnt a planned one and therefore im keeping it as i couldnt think of doing abortion at all, it hurt me so much just thinking of it. I don`t know how you ladies feel but just having some emotional support from your partner is something different. Thanks for reading, im glad i found baby and bump as i can share a lot of things on this website.

lynz

i know how you feel hun i really do. i am the same i dont feel i get any emotional support at all from my partner i still work full time hours and on my days off i do all the housework. i am the one saving like mad and he carries on as normal pissing money up the wall at weekends it really is starting to get me down now and whenever i try and talk to him bout it we end up fighting. i am gonna leave it a few weeks and see what happens i think.
hope you sort things out

leeanne

Aw, I am so sorry you feel all alone.

Have you talked to him about your concerns and feelings? If not, perhaps you should.

I have no family in the province I live in, and I am alone here with my hubby and my kids, his mom and brother, and a good friend.

I am like you....I cook, clean, take care of my kids, and also help run hubby's businesses. I feel overwhelmed too at times, but manage to do it

I think you are feeling lonely and alone, and that is entirely understandable. And I do think this may be the underlying cause of your feelings.

Do talk your hubby and I hope he respects your feelings and concerns.

glamgirl

Thank you for your reply, im so glad i can get support on this site. yes my parents, all my own blood are all in mauritius and im here struggling to live with my fiance. He doesnt undrstd that i need my parents sometimes and that im alone in here. He is just mean and selfish at times. Like on valentine day for instance i baked him a cake made a nice roast dinner, got him a nice card and present but he didnt give me anyfin until today chucking the gifts on the kitchen table and said here are your valentine presents, end of the day you give somethng with love or you dont give anything at all. how many kids do you have? i bet you miss your parents so much, me im so sad as i cannot go and see them as often as my OH does. And i don`t want to stress them over there telling them about my issues here as they are proud im here and they are old now so i do not want them to stress themselves.

toriaaaaTRASH

Aww! Have you tried speaking to your OH? My pregnancy wasn't planned either, and I get so jealous of people who's OHs fuss over them so much when mine doesn't care for it much atall

glamgirl

Thank you for your reply, i hope everything gets better for both of us. I just feel so depressed. i do fight a lot with my OH a lot as well. He just got a brain for himself. He just don`t think about the fact that im pregnant just for thse nine months i need a bit of support until i give birth, but he just doesnt care at all. All he does is smoke drink and wants to go round his mates to stay over which i really don`t let him most of the time as i just don`t want to be on me own at nights, it just makes me so lonely.

Hope all goes well for u, im glad i got B n B to share my feeling s to.

glamgirl

i try to talk but we end up arguing so its better i just don`t say anyfin. My OH wants me to just listen to him always and do wat he wants. i undrstd wat u mean by how other man look after their woman so much wen they pregnant, i think its a gift that we women are providing them so they should value us more. But oh well...

leeanne

How long have you been together? Has he always been this way?

That doesn't sound like he's understanding at all and I am so sorry.

It's hard living somewhere where you know nobody, I know. Been there and done that

A suggestion, is it possible for you to get involved with a hobby or something outside of home so that you can possibly meet other people? This won't solve the problem with your fiancee but you could meet some new friends which would maybe help.

MarchBaby

I know how you feel. My OH is the same way. He expects me to do EVERYTHING even though I could go into labor at anytime and would really love any rest I can get before our LO gets here (as I know I will be up every night! OH could sleep through a freight train hitting the house!!!). Today I was cleaning and started getting contractions so I would rest. I didn't get everything done so my OH started calling me lazy and saying he has to do everything around here! My family only lives 15-20 minutes away, but my OH doesn't like me going over there. I dont know why, its just the way he is. I try and tell myself that he just doesn't understand, or it's just my hormones. I end up just crying to myself when I get overwhelmed, it just helps me release everything and I feel better afterwards. So I'm sorry I dont have any advice besides you are not alone and I know how you feel! Try talking to your OH and telling him how you feel.

Rumpskin

Oh Glamgirl,this should be the happiest time of your life. If your OH is not hearing what you say, you could write him a letter. He may take it in more.

Sending you a hug xxx