toriaaaaTRASH

I know what you mean about arguing and stuff. That's why I gave up. They should appreciate us more!!

glamgirl

thats what i thought to write him a letter but he doesnt even value the cards i give him for valentine, birthday or any occasion so then i thought to myself it would just be a piece of paper for him i think, I will still try as i never done that before. Thank you for your reply... xxxxx

glamgirl

i undrstd you totally, i hope all goes well for you soon. My mum is coming down here in may so hopefully i`ll be looked after not depending on my OH, he doesnt do anyfin to make me happy. Im just thinking as well will it be wise for me to get married to him as well, as i don`t want to ruin my life and i believe marriage is a sacred thing. Hope all goes well... i don`t know if he would have the time to listen to me, all he wants is me to listen to him. Im just fed up, i really am losing my patience a lot. xxxxx

anita665

I'm really sorry you're going through this.

Iwantone!!!

aaawww hunni ((((((hugs))))

beanie

I'm not excusing his behaviour but I do think that sometimes it ca be harder for a man to fully get their head round what is happening. My OH wasn't the best during my first pregnacy, wanted to carry on as normal, wasn't as interested in the baby as I was, reading about pregnancy, buyng stuff etc. He also kind of left me to it with the cleaning etc and I was working fulltime. Not because he was being nasty but I really don't think he fully understood what was going on. However he has been completely different this time round, helping me loads, fussing over me and is so excited about the baby, and I think this is because now he has bonded with our daughter he can't wait to have another baby. I do think the letter idea is a good one, he moght not fully understand what you are going through and how you feel. Hope it works out

glamgirl

Weve been together for about 1 year now, he was different when i first met him, u know how men are in the beginning, all lovey dovey! He`s not undrstding it seems, but we argue as i love shopping and he doesnt want me to run into debt which is very nice of him as he cares probably.
At the moment im pregnant so i don`t really know what hobby to do, i`m thinking of joining salsa classes after birth but then again, the baby would be here, how would i get the time. I used to have friends before when i wasnt pregnant but it seems they don`t want to talk to me anymre as they not too happy about me keeping the baby. That shows who are your true friends... Thanks for your reply.... xxxxxxxxxx

Iwantone!!!

aaawww hunni ur friends dont sound like friends to at all xx

nikkybaby

I am sorry you are going through this, but you really need to think, do you deserve to be treated like that? I wouldn't put up with it TBH. I don't care if men "have a hard time" dealing with pregnancy, or change. We go through it a lot worse then they do, and yet, we still seem to treat them with love, and respect. It seems IMO that he only really cares about himself, no matter how much you try to explain things to him.
Do what you think is right, but make sure you are happy.

tb42

my family live 6-7 hours away by bus and i don't see them often, only once or max. twice a year. sometimes i think maybe it's a typical man thing that they seem to take things for granted from us. sometimes i get very emotional and he doesn't seem to understand why. like 2 days ago he had day off and he said we were going to get a few movies and stay at home watching it together, when an hour later his friend phoned and he just went out , he said his friend needed him to advice something about new boat ( what about me). he said we would go and get movies and he came back, but 4-5 hours later he phoned and said he's going to have a meal at his friend's house and said if i want to come. i was upset and i said "will see", and he said he didn't understand why i was upset with him ( can you believe that )i went for a few hours and came home, and him went out drinking with his friend. that drove me MADDDDDD. ( he came back at midnight, GREAT !!! )
and today he has day off again, guess where he is now: go out with his friend, i'm at home with my 2 puppies, clean the house, washing the clothes. every time i get upset he doesn't know why and we've been together for 5 years.
i don;t want to go out that much because of the finance situation. So i stay at home do a few things , play with my dogs, watch TV and eat. My husband maybe spend time watching TV more than talking to me.
it must be so hard for you though to be there alone ( i can still talk to my mom every day, even about something else ). Maybe if you go out for a walk, talk to people , meet people, do window shopping ( that;s what i do when i go out ), and read free magazine in the book shop ( like i do here ). Hope you find the solution. OR just come here on this forum and meet us, it might make you feel a bit better. ( i spend time on this forum more than with my husband )