toriaaaaTRASH

Just when I thought the only way things could go was UP, I get pulled right back down. I just got a letter from my nan. It doesn't make much sense because she was angry it seems, but here goes:

"Darling Victoria, what a shock & sad, you will have a great shock what you will have to do. You don't realise what you will have to do. You will not be able to lay about anymore, full stop.
Look after baby, nappies, bottles, cook, clean, sleepless nights, you are going to have a shock. You also going to have lots of internal examinations. Don't forget you are responsible for your baby, not your MUM.
I hope and pray he stands by you in everything. You are the last person to drop a bombshell on your MUM & US.
I presume you will live with him and his parents for a while.
Keep active, lots of walking, eat sensibly, we will not let you down.
Lots of Love as always,
Nana
x

P.S. Hope to see you soon."

I'm crying now.
Does that not seem abit harsh?
I'm 18 not 7, and I was practically living on my own before I got pregnant anyway! I was only here once a month if my mum was lucky!

cupcake

sorry toria, it was a bit harsh but she did say there they wont let you down.
older generations often see things very differently and it did seem like she was telling you off but in the end she really seems like she loves you and im sure she will love the baby.

charlottecco2

you know my thoughts. mwah. stay strong xxx

Vickie

anita665

How very random. That is really harsh and I don't know how she thinks saying all this is going to help. It's really odd the way it's written with that bit in there about internal examinations!! So not needed!



Don't let it get to you though. Show them that your ready and you're not afraid of any of this so they think it's not getting to you.

elles28

Sorry you are feeling upset hope you feel better soon

toriaaaaTRASH

She might love me and care, but that was not the way to go about showing it

anita665

Families can be strange. Sometimes they are thinking more about themselves than the rest of their family. Doesn't mean they don't love you - they just have a funny way of showing it.

If ever anything happens to myself, my sister or my mum, all my nan goes on about is how difficult it is for her to cope with, how hard her life is and how it's so unfair - even if it doesn't affect her at all. She just has to be centre of attention and loves drama!

leeanne

I am so sorry. Boy, you are certainly having one heck of a week

It sounded harsh to me and I would've been upset by it as well.

But, one thing, anyone of that generation thinks that 18 year olds are babies themselves and will not know how to handle a baby. Yet, what's funny is that back in their day, they had babies so young, and so many babies too more often than not.

She did say that she would be there for you

leeanne

Maybe this will put a bit of a smile on your face.

When I was 21 my best friend had had a baby at 18. I babysat the baby quite often, even all night while the poor thing was so sick.

Anyhow, I had to babysit her at the MIL's house as the in-laws had a function to attend. The in-laws were in their 60's.

I went to the house and I couldn't believe the list she made:

1) Feed baby.
2) Wipe face.
3) Change diaper.

And more. But do you get my drift? Sheesh, like I've never babysat a day in my life. Gosh, I had babysat kids since I had been 10.

Well, I had to change the baby's diaper and couldn't find any. I searched and searched and all I could find was one disposable diaper hanging on a clothing line in their laundry room. UGH! It had already been used, hung to dry, and I had to then put that back on the baby.

This is the mindset of the older generations. It's like younger generations don't know a thing.