toriaaaaTRASH

I just can't believe she just spoke to me like I'm 10 years old. I feel really patronised. I've been pregnant for 25 weeks, I'm not ******** enough to have not realised what's coming yet!

leeanne

I do understand, and, like I said, I do think that older generations look at younger generations as not being knowledgeable and that they themselves are babies.

Hey, when our kids grow up, we still consider them our babies too

I know it's been a difficult few days for you and I know I would feel down about that letter too. I would feel the same as you. But from looking on the outside, without knowing the dynamics of your relationship with her, I think she is thinking you are young and don't know what you are in for.

I think she also knows that many 18 year olds have babies and don't look after them, and expect their parents too do that. It does happen.

I know you will be different. Prove her wrong

toriaaaaTRASH

My mum cheered me up abit. She said it sounds like my nan had been drinking and that every time my nan has a drink my mum ends up getting moaned at about stuff too. She said it's my turn and she's glad she gets to share the nagging now.

leeanne

Well, she should know better than to nag at a pregnant women!

Linzi

Older people are a bit strange. I got an earful because we aren't married even though we've been living together for a year and a half. It is really upsetting but it sounds like she's probably just concerned. Im sure she'll come round when she sees how well you cope with a baby

xxx

clairebear

it does seem a little harsh but also very random.
sorry that u have been upset by it but like u said ur 18 not 7 and imsure u will be fine xxx

AquaDementia

Just filter it through.

Iwantone!!!

thats quiet harsh hunni towards u it sound like on one hand she supports u on the other shes telling u what a naughty girl u are for getting pregs and that u have to now deal with ur mistake and not relia on anyone else for support very harsh what u going to do send a letter bk or tel ur mum?

vickilouise

i know what u mean tor.
my nan was harsh when i told her, she said "oh well itll be ok some pregnancies dont survive" me and my OH were disgusted and my lovely grandad hit the roof. i ended up staying away from my nan for about 2weeks (which is strange cos i normally go every day) so she turned up at my house to apologise saying she didnt know how i would react to it wether that was what i wanted to hear as i looked upset. i go to see them still but its still not the same i cant seem to go back to normal after what she said.

as far as your nan goes she'll calm it down hopefully.lol
i think its just an old fashioned thing

MarchBaby

I'm sorry hun.
It does seem a bit harsh, but atleast she said they would stand by you.
I have a grandma that lives in a different state; but I grew up with her. I even lived with her for awhile. She has always been there for me and has always picked me over anyone else. I told her I was pregnant not long after finding out and she has never once mentioned it in any of her letters. One time she said "hope your health is doing okay."
.. and that was it.