Love u Sarah

Hi, im new and i was going to be a father to be, my "ex" girlfriend is 18 and im 20, shes a student whos hoping to go to university in september and im a bar manager, we had been together for 4 months and were totally in love.

She split up with me last week saying she didnt hav feelings for me anymore even though she told me she loved me and she was grateful for me being there through this just last week, i know love doesnt dissapear in a few days and im wondering if anyone else has been through this and if there is any chance we will get back with each other, the thigs shes said to me in the past make me think it cant go away this easy, she made the decision to get an abortion as soon as she found out which i was happy with as long as shes happy, i said i would support her either way, aslong as shes happy. i love her more than anything in the world but shes a really stubborn girl and i hope its just hormons or things like that. id do anything to get back with her shes the best thing that has ever happened to be in agggggges, ive sent her 50 red roses for valentines day hoping she will at least let me start again with her cos i know what we had was special, she told me i was the first person shed ever been in love with, and shes the first ive been in love with aswell. hopfully someone on here will help me as most of the people i know havnt been through it.

Thanks


I LOVE YOU SARAH. X

Love u Sarah

My name is Liam btw

leeanne

Hello

I'm not sure what I am going to say here but I will try.

First of all, has she gone through with the abortion or is she still contemplating? Truly, it is a hard decision and one that I would never have wanted to even go through. She's probably very scared to go in either direction and that may be what has turned her from you at this time.

She's young and obviously wants to fulfill her dreams to go to university. Now a pregnancy has made her face a big decision in life and she is now having to go over her priorities.

Another thing is, if she does abort she will go through guilt and regret, and that may in fact be magnified by staying with you and remembering her decision.

Truly, I don't know exactly what has gone on and I don't know the dynamics of your relationship. But, I suggest you give her her space and not smother her at this time. Sure, make sure she knows that if she needs anything she can come to you. But do not call everyday...wait a few days or more before calling her again. Let her get through what she is dealing with right now. Smothering isn't going to help matters.

As the saying goes:

If you love her
Let her go
If she comes back
She's yours
If she doesn't
She never was.

Best wishes to you. I hope it all turns out!

Love u Sarah

Shes going for a consultation on the 20th of this month. Thanks for your reply!

leeanne

Something dawned on me this morning. Did she tell her parents...does she still live at home?

If so, could be them telling her to stop seeing you if they do know about the pregnancy.

Love u Sarah

No niether have us have told our parents and both live in our respective homes

Iwantone!!!

aaaww hunni welcome firstly its both ur decisoin to have a baby u both made it i think u need to talk and maybe have councilling if u BOTH deciede to go ahead with an abortion this is a hard thing to do and u cant reverse it mayeb she needs time i would firstly talk dont fuss around her maybe she needs time to get her head around it mybe she scared u have only been together 4months and not told either parents mayeb shes sh*tting it good luck hunni xx