anita665

I think you're being really strong doing what you're doing. It's a terrible possition to be in.

It sounds like he really wants to change but like you say, it's so easy to slip back to your old ways once you get comfortable again & you don't want to keep going through all this pain. That doesn't mean he can't or won't change but I do think you need to give him time if you can.

I don't know what to say - only that I really feel for you and I hope you start to find things easier soon.

Redhorse xxx

Hi Sammi,

I'm know how you are feeling sweetheart, try to see it as a positive step towards repairing your relationship at least to a point where Ewan can actually 'be' a Dad to Ollie without the stress of being with him 24/7. I hope that things go smoothly tomorrow and that your Dad is chilled about it to Ewan's face. They are only worried about you hun, good luck.

Hugs and positive vibes!

Redhorse xxx

MarchBaby

I'm really sorry.
I cannot say I have been through it, and I dont know how you are feeling. I'm with my first love now and I couldn't imagine not being with him.
I think you should talk to him afterwards. Not soon though. I would cut it off completely for awhile and let him get a reality check of how it would be without you and your son. But I would also talk to him occasionally for AWHILE before you think about getting back with him. Only talk to him until you have witnessed that he has changed.
If you really love him though I wouldn't give up hope. Even if it takes years. My mother left my step dad, Gary, because he was an alcoholic and was abusive when he got drunk. She loved him to death but just emotionally couldn't take it anymore. After she left him he started going to AA meetings. My mom ended up marrying another man, and all through her five-six year marriage to him, Gary kept going to the AA meetings. Right now, my mom is going through another divorce and is happily back with Gary, who has completely changed and been sober for years. They even plan on getting remarried.
Good luck with everything!

Layla

Sorry to hear this...

Have you considered that he may have a form of PND?

Jase was/is the best dad in the world to Coby but has struggled a bit with Adam due to his colic and constant crying, hes admited that hes feeling very low and cant handle Adams crying. sounds like Ewan may need some help too

x

Newt

I dont realy know what to say, I have no advice for you as you are the only ones who know your situation. All I can say is I feel your sadness and I am very sorry and I send you a hug. I hope it all works oput for you soon. x

elles28

You are being so brave & putting your son first..I greatly admire your courage & I will be thinking about you tomorrow...I hope things work out well in the end

Linzi

I dont really know what to say, but you are so brave. I know people saying that doesn't make it easier, but I really think you are. I dont think I could ever have th courage to do that.

As someone said earlier, it doesn't have to be a permanent split. if he does genuinely change then there could be a chance to save your relationship. If you feel better apart, then your little boy still has his daddy in his life.

I really wish you lots of luck and happiness, it sounds as if you deserve it

xxx

leeanne

Hope you are ok!!!

nkbapbt

I didnt read all the replies...but you are in such a tough situation. As someone who once lived for two years with a very abusive (physical and emotional) man. I know its not exactly the same, but it still hurts.

Can I ask if you have tried to seek professional help? Like anger management classes for Ewan? And can I also suggest if you havent and do, I would go with him so you both learn, plus he feels supported.

You are being so strong and doing the right thing for your baby, your family. I agree that your nurse friend is right. But I also think that this is something you both can work on, or Ewan can on his own.

I truly hope you can work through your issues, and if you need someone to talk too... please feel free to pm me.

((hugs))

niknaknat

Sorry chick I hope this time apart proves to be the best way forward for all of you xxxxx