My husband does, I really love his little boy too.. It was very hard at first, just because of his mum, she really gave us a hard time in the beginning.. It was "you aint seeing him if she's there blah blah"

But things have settled down now.. She doesn't kick off like she used to anyway..

We were a little worried about telling him that we were going to have a baby, half because we were worried about how he'd feel about his daddy having another baby and half because its things like this that start his ex off.. It'll be "ooh right your not seeing him anymore now"..

Anyway we did end up telling him and he had no reaction at all, he just shrugged his shoulders and said ok..

That was about 2 months ago now and he still seems really off about the whole thing..

I kinda feel sad for him, he must think, well hang on that little baby is gonna live with my dad everyday and I only get to see my dad once a week, thats not fair..

I would truely love it if he loved the baby and they were like proper little brothers.. But I just can't see it..

I reckon his mum puts in her 2 pence worth in too, probably saying horrible things like "ooh daddy wont have any time for you once that baby comes along"

Anyone else ever been in this situation at all ?

Well my OH had a daughter from a previous r/ship. She's 8 now.

Things are complicated in the situation and he only see's her 2 or 3 times a year for a couple of days. It's a shame but he feels he's doing the right thing keeping his distance. We live in different countries for a start so it wouldn't be fair to be spending a lot of time together and then apart. I know he's deeply cut up about it & has took years to deal with the situation. I honestly think it's only now that I'm pregnant that he's come to terms with it.

I had no problem accepting his daughter or any issues with it. She was very shy towards us both when we first met but not so much after. She's apparently excited to be having a baby brother and it was lovely seeing OH acting so differently towards her. Almost made me cry (although maybe that was my hormones?!). I was and still am secretly a little worried about how her mother could react to the situation. You just never know what gets said behind closed doors. It's a shame people have to be like that though because you'd think you'd want the best for your child and surly thats knowing their siblings.

I'm really happy my LO has a big sister though and I'd love for them to get to know each other as well as they can because I'm so close to my sister and brothers - maybe my sister a little more so but probably because we're both girls and closest in age. Thats not going to be easy with living so far appart but that goes for all of OH's family.

Ah, exes, they are fun to deal with!

My hubby has three kids from two other relationships....a boy with one ex, and two girls from another ex.

The kids, especially the two girls, were pretty good with our first two little ones as they were young themselves at the time.

I thought I was done after my second child but I found out early January that I was pregnant. Quite a shock but now I've become quite excited.

The girls were very excited. One of them actually said months ago that she wished that I would have another baby. At that time, I replied I was done.

We just told the boy a week ago and he didn't seem overly happy. His mother is one of those who talks bad about me to him, even though I've done no wrong to her. It's jealousy really. This negativity is truly working on him. He's also of the age (10) where he's thinking, why doesn't daddy marry my mom, etc.

He is also an only child so is spoiled with getting sole attention. You can see this when the house is full every second weekend with all the kids. He wants to go home when he doesn't get his full attention. Plus, his mom works him by calling him when he's here and telling him what fun things she is doing. UGH.

I think he is also jealous of my hubby and I cause we've been together for almost 10 years, we don't fight, etc. Meanwhile his mom goes in and out of relationships like changing clothes and some of them have been violent.

Unfortunately, there is nothing that can be done. His mom is a twit and truly nothing sinks in to her when talking to her. She's no help either because she is jealous and doesn't consider the other kids to be siblings of him.

Time will tell what will happen.

It really annoys me when mothers tell their kids bad things about their fathers or vice versa. It's not healthy for the child, it's very immature and it's selfish because children are so impressionable and should be allowed to decide for themselves. A parent doing that can potentially destroy a child’s relationship with their other parent.

My mum was always telling me how terrible my dad was. Really she wasn't far wrong - although not in the kind of way she was making out and she was no better!!

Unfortunately, it all comes down to jealousy. That's all that it is!

It's too bad that they can't realize that it's good that the father is in their lives, etc. There are many men out there who are not in their kids lives. Mine wasn't in my life, I didn't get two Christmas' each year, etc. LOL

im in the same situation now my OH has two kids a boy and girl from a previous relationship and his ex is a psycho he hasnt seen them since boxing day cause she is being funny again and i know she is filling there head with rubbish saying your daddy aint interested in you anymore cause he is making a new family. i do feel bad for the kids but i also feel like we cant put our life on hold and not do things in case it sets the dragon off if you know what i mean. i wanted kids more than anything and i wouldnt have been best pleased if my OH had said no in case it sets her off

My Dh has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship. TBH we haven't really encountered any problems. Step daughter took a copy of my 12 week scan pics home to show her mum who explained what everything was. She has also helped out in picking names and stuff. She is so keen to be involved in the pregnancy and cannot wait to have a little brother or sister

we're in this situation at the moment, OH has a boy, 6, from previous marriage. sometimes it's good, sometimes it's infuriating. you just want an easy life, no games, no second guessing. but there's always something to contend with. what i cant understand is that the ex wife did the dirty on my OH, so why does she still care what we do|??? something i will never understand. OH's son is excited but has already said things like 'babies are expensive aren't they?' and 'I don't mind sharing my room with a baby'... seeds planted in his head??? maybe i'm cynical!

That sounds really good. Wish there were more people like that.

I guess as everyone else says, it's jealousy most of the time but I also think often a certain amount of bitterness.

I was thinking about it and thought I don't have any bad beeling or jealousy towards any exes except one who I'd actually been pregnant by but didn't keep it. I realised I couldn't care less what he was doing with his life and wouldn't feel jealous but I do still feel very bitter towards him for what he did to me. Still I believe that should be controlled for a childs sake & the child shouldn't know how you feel or all the nasty details about why the r/ship failed.

My OH has 3 kids by his ex.

Not really had many probs with his ex (she is now re-married which helps).

We have just been told by OH's middle kiddie that his eldest has just made my OH a grandad. OH not too impressed.