Well my mom announced to me yesterday that after 25 years together her and my dad are splitting up..
I thought that maybe they were just going through a rough time like before when they talked about splitting up a few years ago but it's pretty serious this time.
My mom says that my dad isn't in love with her anymore and that they can't keep pretending just for the kids. My brother and sister are still only 13 and 16 and live with them so it's going to be very hard on them.
I just don't know what to do. I can't beleive that they are going to throw everything away. I don't know how they will be able to live apart from eachother. I keep feeling like they just need some time apart to re-evaluate everything. They always get so caught up in life and bills and stress that they don't learn to appreciate eachother. They don't take time for eachother. I feel like they just need a little bit of work at things. I told her they should try counselling but she says that won't bring the love back. But they should just at least try it.
They can't get a divorce Im so torn up because i'm so close with both of them. I just hate to see them hurting so much. I haven't had time to sit and chat with my mom about things yet because i've been so busy but I definetely need to talk with her. Her and I are like best friends and it breaks my heart to even think about how she's feeling. I hate hearing her cry
This year was supposed to be a good year and it just feels like it's one thing after another. Cant I ever get a break I don't even know what to say it's not like anything I do say will make things better. I just told her that i'm here for her no matter what. That's the best that I can do.
Girls I dont know what to do....

I'm so sorry hun

My parents had/have a rough relationship but they stayed together for my brother and I. It was horrible though...there was so much negative energy in my household, and my brother was graduated from High School but i was still in school and everything seemed to be my fault because they still had an obligation to take care of me and that was the only reason they were still living under the same roof. I think in my family it would have been a lot better if my parents had split...the 4-6 years i was living in that house with them not loving each other anymore was the hardest time of my life, i'm still having trouble recovering from it. They probably thought it was for the better, but we as their children can feel the negative energy and it may effect us in a way they don't intend.

I know we don't like to see our parents go through a tough time or want to split up...and i don't really feel theres a right or wrong answer to it. Counseling certainly helps with some peoples tough relationships but you really have to be committed to trying to make things work. It's good that they are talking to you about it though and not leaving you in the dark about things. I hope things work out in the end. A situation like this can really make you feel like it's a lose lose situation but stay strong and keep your relationship with both your parents strong.

It's so hard when your parents split up. Mine did aswell after 25 years together and it was so hard to watch them go through it

All you can do is offer your support, which you've already done. Just be there for them as much as you can and hope that they can work their way through it.

You should also make sure you're feeling OK as you've had an emotional rollercoaster recently.

Sending you and I hope it all works out for the best!!

xx